2006-06-13 13:48:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I couldn't agree with your enlightened view more! I have three children now and feel selfish about it a bit...I could't talk my wife into adopting...ultimately I find peace in believing that it's the women who decide the population of the world because women will always find a man who will give up their sperm...it's deeply engrained in us and also in women to have babies.
There are some negative social and government forces making adoption for babies other than those with special needs hard.
This type of thinking takes us to the next level of evolution because the carrying capacity of the world has been reached and there are many unwanted and underloved children.
Even if you can't adopt your own there are millions of childen in need of a role model or special mentor who can ultimately make a greater difference in their lives than some parents.
You are an enlightened person and great thinker for thinking this way. Now do what I did not have the courage to do and stand up for this conviction! Even though I have beautiful childen I feel selfish some days.
2006-06-13 13:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by Tom B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people can't get past the fact that an adopted child isn't "of their blood". Thank God my family didn't think that way before I was adopted. Then, on the other hand, SOME people just cannot control their urges so they bring babies into this world who will always have a hard life. It is a terribly sad thing for those children because two people didn't have the sense to think about what they were doing.
2006-06-13 20:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adopting is too risky. Breaking the normal parental bonds can have major emotional effects, and you're taking a crap shoot with genes. Most people think their genes are above average, and even if there are genetic problems, most people prefer the devil they know to the one they don't. In our childbearing years I was totally sympathetic to the idea that there are too many consumers being born and too many homeless kids, but I wasn't enough of a saint to take these risks. I did insist on stopping at one for many reasons, including the overpopulation problem.
2006-06-13 20:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people like to adopt to help needy kids , but a lot of the babies are taken and older kids are left. some people may think that they are taking someone elses problems , because you do not know what has happened in this kids life and you will have to deal with it all. Also couples want children of their own. It takes a special and unselfish person to be able to take in a child and love it as their own.
2006-06-13 20:57:52 · answer #4 · answered by perrisgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason alot of people are adopting is because they probably can't have children and they know that they have the love, patient, and the biggest thing is the heart to take an child out of the system and give them what they need. I just recently took custody of six kids and I enjoy it. I had them in my home for six years and life is beautiful
2006-06-13 20:53:50 · answer #5 · answered by adamsland1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people want a child that looks like them and that is related to them. The only way i would adopt would be if it was someones child that I knew or if I could'nt have a child of my own.
And because it costs more to adopt..and there are more loops to jump and papers to fill out...and you might not even get a baby.Its a very long process.
2006-06-13 20:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people want their own kids, it's a genetic drive and it's hideously expensive and very hard to adopt kids. Costs in the 10's of thousands and fraught with difficulties.
2006-06-13 20:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by dr_dr_evil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people do adopt. It is a personal right to choose whether or not to have children of their own.
2006-06-13 20:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by Terri C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love to adopt but I simply do not have enough money to adopt it costs thousands and thousands of dollars. There are other people in my boat that would love to adopt but simply can not afford to. Plus when you love someone you want to share that love with need i go on
2006-06-13 20:51:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a lot better if more people did. Even parents who get married and already have kids from previous relationships still want "one of our own". How many more do you need?
2006-06-13 20:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by Kenny ♣ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋