My son was 11 months and 6 days old when he passed away. How do you tell yourself that life will be okay with out every second of every day just bringing back the day that it happened. He was born very early and had a lot of problems keeping him in the hospital for 6 months. Then he was home for about 6 months and boom he was gone. How do life go on after something like this? How do I get passed all the visions of that day holding him as he went to sleep and never woke up? Any one got any answers?
2006-06-13 13:41:22 · 8 answers · asked by Nicole R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We are trying for another baby and it just isnt happening, We are going to the doctors and getting testing done but in the mean time I have to cope with this hanging over my head 24/7
2006-06-13 13:48:52 · update #1
First off, I am soooo sorry for your loss. The loss of a child is a bitter pill to swallow, but I myself lost one too, so I can speak with first-hand experience. You question everything when it happens,WHY? WHY ME? WHY DID HE HAVE TO GO? WHY NOT ME INSTEAD OF HIM? HOW CAN I GO ON LIVING? The only help I can offer is that it does get better after a while. It NEVER goes away,but it does get better. I go to the graveyard, birthdays, holidays, often, and tell him I love him. He would be 21 if he had lived, so it has been a long time, but it still hurts, even now. I have accepted his death now, and it is much easier than it was at first. Mourn for your loss, and then move on as best you can. You are NOT alone!
2006-06-13 13:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Losing a child is the hardest thing a parent has to go through. It is okay to grieve and its okay to ask why. When you dwell on his last moments instead of the six months at home you had with him, the good moments, it will make it even harder to honor his life and what he brought to your life just for the few short months he lived. As far as having another baby, give your self time to heal from this devastating event in your life. Get to that point in your life where you and your husband can reconnect and have some emotional relaxation in your life. That is what happened to me and while I will never forget my little one, I know he is in a better place and I will see him again. Once I gained peace from the terrible day he died, I began to remember the good times and the result of that healing time was another gift from God who is now 22 years old and the joy of my life.
2006-06-13 14:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by Apacheusa 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You don't get over losing a loved one, you just get through it, day by day. The loss of a child is alittle harder, because parents are suppose to pass on first. You don't never forget. You will always wonder what your child would have grown up to be and look like. Death is hard for most people. When a baby dies, you have to keep telling yourself this baby was much too perfect for this world and he is now at home with his maker, the lord. Pray for strenght. There is big power in prayer. And I will pray for you.
2006-06-13 13:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by auroralites58 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time to grieve. Take all the time you need, and do not allow anyone to tell you to "get over it". Try to sit and hold a blanket or something like that was his, and remember the happy moments that be brought you. If you can, do something like planting a tree in his name. You also might want to find a support group with people that will understand what you are going through.
2006-06-13 13:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by innocence faded 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I too lost my oldest daughter suddenly in Dec 2005 and you never get over it and your life will never be the same,however,it will get easier with time.I lost my brother 23 years ago and he seems like a dim memory although I haven't forgotten him.Each day I am feeling a little better.I don't know what is worse; to lose a child you've only had a short time or one you have had for years."Time heals all wounds" Blessing and love to you and your family.
2006-06-13 13:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
remember this we are all gods children and when he decideds it time for us to come home we will go. you as a parent were only a vessel used to train a new life about this world and get that person ready to go home again. since your son has been called home you have done what was asked of you so be at peace within yourself and know that everything is going to be alright you have done a splendid job and know that you will see that little person again and everything will be alright with him he suffers no more...
2006-06-13 13:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
time will help but you will never get completely over it. you can have more kids which will help distract you from the pain but, you can never replace someone. i am sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing with us. keep your head up and stay strong.
2006-06-13 13:46:57 · answer #7 · answered by jsha2424 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have another
my mom died two years ago
and im kinda over it
im 16
2006-06-13 13:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 7⤋