I've been dating this guy for 2 yrs now but the thing is that he has another woman also. He was the first guy I fell in love with I've been trying to end the relationship but he keeps me from doing and in a way i don't want to be with out him. The problem is how do i tell him its me or her with out losing him? Yet also should i leave him alone if so how can i go about doing it?
2006-06-13 13:40:45 · 30 answers · asked by rudegurld-lo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he really loved you, he would be only with you.
2006-06-13 13:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let him know that you want him and give him a choice if you feel the need for monogamy in your relationship as most do.
Let him know in the best way possible - try to surprise him...give him excitement..either with an event, special experience maybe even sexually. Sexual seduction has been the way of the woman for millions of years, btu if you don't believe that it's the right time for that for you either morally or personally then a special romantic event is good too.
Second, no matter what happend try to occupy your soul with other higher personal and or spritual pursuits...so that no matter what decision you make. That way even if he rejects you, ultimately it becomes less significant than your personal development in a higher evolutionally or spiritual way.
Good luck!
2006-06-13 13:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by Tom B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BOO WAKE UP! You don't want to do it because you haven['t done it. First off you shouldn't have settled for that, which means you have very little respect for yourself, and if its been two years you haven't planned to go anywhere. He knows he has you and the other broad probably knows about you too! If you don't feel you deserve better then you will keep going through it but I don'r want nobody's left over and I don't come second to no man besides his family'children or God. Give him the ultimatum if he doens't get rid of her then be a woman and show him what its like to have one woman because it may be more than you two
2006-06-13 13:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by lilsexygul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to share a man? Do you really trust that he's only with one other woman? This other woman probably thinks she's the only one. The law of life - don't trust a man who is already with another woman. He's lying to her and to you.
The only reason he doesn't want to lose you is prob for obvious reasons - sex/companionship. His sex toy is gone, he needs to find another one.
Lose him girl...you are only hurting your self esteem and confidence. Read the "He's Just Not Into You" book. It says a lot about how if a man was really into you, YOU would be the ONLY one in his life. Good Luck!
2006-06-13 13:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, is this guy on an ego trip or what (women FIGHT over me! Woo woo! I'm too sexy for my shirt.)
Oh, HE'S a great candidate to date, get married to, have babies (not neccesarily in that order, today) and then watch as some other babe comes by, strokes his ego and you are left, with Baby in the dust, no child support and whinging about your bad life.
Or...you could drop this egotistical dude and find someone who loves YOU and only YOU because YOU are great.
If you want to be in a constant competition with all other women, it's YOUR life. But personally, I think it's dumb.
As to leaving, hit the road, Jack, don't come back. 50 Ways to leave your lover, whatever. Just go. As Kelly Clarkson sings it "should you go or should you stay...just walk away."
2006-06-13 13:44:54 · answer #5 · answered by dr_dr_evil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will never leave his wife. When guys talk among each other, nobody says "I'm gonna leave the wife and marry the girlfriend". The girlfriend is there only for the excitement. If the married guy and his wife have kids and a mortgage, then he can kiss it all goodbye if he tries to dump the wife.
2006-06-13 13:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by eddygordo19 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should have not got with him in the first place he has no respect for you if he is with another woman if he loved you he would choose because right now it sounds as if he is having fun juggling 2 women girl you betta wake up don't let love blind you !
2006-06-14 02:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen being in love is something special. But you need to think of what you have to go trough to be with that man and he can't be that much in love with trying to PLAY both of you women like that. Ask him if his love for you is that strong to walk away from this relationship because really you are the biggest FOOLl in this relationship.
2006-06-13 13:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by adamsland1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl let go and get your own toys to play with that man aint gonna leave the other woman for you cause yopuve been doin this for 2 yrs already so what makes you think he gonna change this situation? only you have the power to do that just walk away...
2006-06-13 13:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how old you are, what she looks like, what you do with your life,what you look like, and the sex.
Guys are simple and we dont really choose because of the person, its more body, looks, job, sex, money, some more stuff and then what type of person you are. Since he is dating two people you do realize the maybe he is doing this because he wants a threesome or because you arent fuffilling his needs or she wasnt fufilling his needs. You have to take all your possible reasons for his dating two women and then come up with one good generalizatoin and figure out how to keep him to yourslef.
2006-06-13 13:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by egypt363706873 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away run away there is to many men out there for u tobe with him because if u try hard and not be stuck with the situation u will see there are more then just him and if u love him that much ask 1 question to him NO SEX until u are married and that should be your answer.
2006-06-13 13:45:57 · answer #11 · answered by patrick m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋