I just recently found out that my son's father got married. He has been married for a couple of months. He lives in MD and I live in AL. He never told me and is still denying it to me. To make matters worse he is denying it to his own family when they ask him. What hurts the worst is that he got married two weeks after i left MD. I have always told him that his relationship with our son has nothing to do with the relationship he and i have. When he and i have ever agrued i still let him be apart of our sons life. I would not do that to him or my son. What kills me is that he called and is calling everyday and making plans for us to get married and have more kids. I was suppose to move in with him a couple of months before I found out. I keep telling him that there is no future for us and it can never be like that between us again. He he broke my heart. My son is taking it harder. He loves his father. His dad is still telling him that we are going to be this big happy family. NOT!
2006-06-13 13:31:31 · 9 answers · asked by t_neil_j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hang up on him when he calls......let the answering machine talk to him......if it seems something about your son.........then answer..........or let your son answer........ but if he keeps going on about the two of you.....then hang up............ talk to your son.....let him know.....but also make it known that it is about you and the dad...and not about him..............reasure that your son can talk to him anytime he wants to........now for you.......... GO OUT AND DATE........ NOTHING SERIOUS......JUST A GOOD TIME...............
2006-06-13 13:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by toodie7298 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know for sure he is married? Why would he deny something like that, especially when questioned by his own family? Unless you have a copy of the marriage license I would double check my sources before I jumped to conclusions. Not saying its impossible but its a little odd that he would marry another woman but continue to plan a life with you and your son.
2006-06-13 20:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless polygamy is an option for you (and i hope it isnt) you need to separate yourself from this guy. he is dilusional. with such a distance in where you live, you should be able to move on with your life. at least now you know the truth. as for your son....i would put off telling him anything for the time being and work on building a future for him in your new home.it would be better if his dad finally tells him the truth, but if it winds up being you, try to be stoic. explain how much you love him, and that life will still be ok.
2006-06-13 20:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by shannon d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. You have a creep on your hands, and a dishonest one at that.
I think you should do this other woman a favor and tell her about you and your son and the conversations you're having with him. Then never take another one of his phone calls again.
In short, respect yourself. Because this guy isn't going to respect you at all.
2006-06-13 20:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that, what he is doing is a major hassel for you , and your familys. The only real way that I see it, is for you to tell your son that his father has remarried, and that since he is married, there isn't a way to have what his father says.I know its going to be hard, I been there as a child. but truth is always the best.
2006-06-13 20:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by Nevin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make him realize that there will nvr be nething between you too. if he keeps telling your son that you guys are goin to be one big happy family that is goin to hurt your son. He will have high hopes of everything working out and thats not right. i would just stand strong and hope that he realizes there is nothing there nemore. good luck
2006-06-13 20:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by asian_beetle2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be strong fo ryou and your son and move on. You know the truth and him admitting or lying is not going to change anything. MOVE ON time waits for nothing and noone remember that
2006-06-13 20:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by lilsexygul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down with ur son and tell him the truth adn just tell your ex that obviously its not gonna be like that with you too...but that he does need to be in his son's life..
2006-06-13 20:35:44 · answer #8 · answered by melissa D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your question is what should you do move on. when he calls do not talk to him about that ask him if he wants to speak to his son and dont entertain him move on with your life he has moved on with his...
2006-06-13 20:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋