He wants to go fishing every night. We have a 18 month old son who I have to stay home with all the time.
2006-06-13 13:30:38 · 24 answers · asked by Abbi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sure he does not go every night....be happy he does not want to go to strip clubs and bars. I'm sure he does not MAKE YOU STAY HOME!!! Go out with your girlfriends once a week. I'm sure he won't mind. Also, maybe talk to him about just going fishing one day a week.
2006-06-13 13:33:15 · answer #1 · answered by dohm84 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-13 20:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure he's fishing??? Mine usually stays at home after work...and we dont evan have a baby yet...when he wants to go out he usually takes me alang..i guess were more boring. I think he should help out a bit more. your son needs time to bond with him as well. Everynight might not be a good idea. maybe present the idea to your fiance and tell him your feelings without fighting, cuz then he'll shut down. Been there. Just be honest and let him know how you feel, but dont be whiny or bugging...men hate that.
2006-06-13 20:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was in your position, I would ask him why does he need to go 'fishing' every night? What kind of father do you want raising your kid that doesn't want to accept responsibility for your family? If he is out every night, it makes me question his motives - Is he doing it to get away from you, the kid or the pressures that will be sure to come when he is married?
Know that if his need to leave continues, your arguing and begging won't change him, and neither will marriage.
2006-06-13 20:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have a baby, it's not fair for you to be home all the time alone with your child. He needs to understand where you are coming from and that you and your child need him. Try to be honest and explain this to him. He should be able to have at least one or two nights a week to go fishing if he enjoys it that much, but explain to him that you should also have a "day off" where he could watch your child and you have time off.
2006-06-13 20:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to leave you home all day long with a baby and no way out???? no car, no video games, no phone?? what a jerk. i would let him out twice a week: once with you and once without you. he can stay home and pull his weight around the house (bill paying and making money is NOT pulling his weight but it helps) besides, you dont have to stay in the house all together, you could ALL go out someplace as a family!
my boyfriend stays home every weekend so i can go work and in that time he cooks all 3 meals, cleans the house including dishes, does some laundry and gets the kids ready for the day: hair brushed, teeth brushed and dressed. and after all that he goes to bed with me every nite and spoons me for an hour and talks to me before we go to sleep.
i would seriously reconsider marring this guy if he is going to go out every nite and leave you. if he does this now, he will do this later in your marrage and it will eventually lead to resentment against him and that may lead to divorce.
nip this bad behavior in the bud while you can! hes an adult, hes a father (even if its not his, he is still a DAD) and he needs to act like one, not like he has all the free time in the world because he doesnt anymore.
2006-06-13 20:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a much deeper problem. I would start with asking yourself why he thinks he needs to be out every night without you? Is he catching dinner for your family or drinking beers with the buddies? He won't respond well to you setting restrictions on an activity that he obviously really enjoys. It's time to figure our what type of father he plans on becoming if he also plans on being absent in your lives.
2006-06-13 20:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by danielwithanR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think everynight is a little much. however dont jump to conclusions and think he is cheating or something. i mean this is the best time of year to fish. how is he the times that he is home? is he nice or mean? if he is nice give a few more weeks then it will be to hot to fish. if hes mean talk to him tell him how you feel set some boundaries if he doesnt want to follow those boundaries then leave him and find someone that will.
2006-06-13 20:36:16 · answer #8 · answered by savemejebus82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to compromise if he gets to go out a night, then you get to go out the next night. I went through similar things to this in the past are you SURE he is fishing every night? Good Luck :-)
2006-06-13 20:33:57 · answer #9 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every night is way too much. You need to talk to him about equal amounts of time for you and him. One night for him and one night for you and the rest for .....FAMILY time. It sounds like you are not having enough quality together time. You can always persuade him to stay home with a litte romance *wink*
2006-06-13 20:36:10 · answer #10 · answered by mudhoney998 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋