2006-06-13 13:27:14 · 4 answers · asked by LJWC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Beyond about six or seven, most children have formed ideas about what and who a "Daddy" is and should be. It's very difficult for a man to live up to those ideas. Same thing is true for a woman, but not to the same degree. Plus most men sense the differences between themselves and the children, particularly in expected behaviors. All of these different expectations set up a degree of tension, which is probably what generates what you refer to as "not getting along."
All of you should see a counselor for some ideas as to what all of you can do to make things less tense.
2006-06-13 14:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by fhornsr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your hubby. I would imagine it could be hard raising another man's children - especially since they are older. But he should be making a real effort to build a relationship with them. Talk to him about whats going on and about how you and your kids feel. Maybe have a family meeting of sorts - but I would talk to your hubby first and find out what kind of issues he's going through.
You could also suggest family counseling, which might really help in this situation.
2006-06-13 13:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they (your kids) are older and less open to the idea of a new "daddy". get some family counceling, it might help. in idaho you just have to dial 211 and get some referance numbers for doctors that go on a sliding scale based payment option.
good luck.
2006-06-13 13:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you let him discipline them? If not that can be a problem. They won't have any respect for what he says and he will just be fed up with them.
2006-06-13 13:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by daisy519 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋