Such as having an affair...I love my husband oh so very much. And I would never do anything to hurt him. But why do I crave it?
2006-06-13 13:15:28 · 21 answers · asked by mrsdu2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's fantasy, you crave the unknown,, some things are best left alone,, the fantasy will only gain you ruin to your marraige.
2006-06-13 13:17:31 · answer #1 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is good to see all the answers of happily married people. I'm also happily married for 9 years. But I don't think that everyone else is wrong if they are not happily married right now. People can make mistakes or be totally deceived by someone and find out they are married to a totally different person than they originally thought. Of course I do also believe that some people don't take marriage seriously and don't put the work into it to keep it fun and communicate instead when things get rough they cheat or leave instead of looking at it as this is just a bad time and we'll work through it together.
2016-03-15 03:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at whats missing in your marriage for you to be crazing excitement outside your marriage. There is nothing wrong with craving excitement, but why not crave it with your husband. Let him know how you feel and that you want to do something exciting. Try taking a vacation somewhere exotic, or doing something that you've both never done before.
It's important you share your feelings with your husband and start doing things together. If you don't, you are going to seek out doing things on your own and that isn't going to help your marriage out.
2006-06-13 13:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you crave it because your husband that you love has done everything possible with you so in your mind you might think there is nothing else you could do with him, you are bored. When people who are bored, they tend to look for new ways to excite themselves, and this is what you have done. I always have this phrase, "you could look but you cant touch" since if it comes to acting out on it, you would get in real serious trouble and might end up losing the one that you love. It could either be that he is not giving you the same attention that he given you before and you are craving for it, if this is true, just remind him of what he used to do and how much you would like him to do it again. Or that you just want the excitment and ego boost it gives you, if so, just ask your partner to do thing spontaneously with you or for you sometime, like surprise you with a bouquet of flowers or doing something new in the bedroom or outside the bedroom together.
2006-06-13 13:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by Terri T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand very much what your asking and wish I had the answer. I see a woman that I crave and I wonder why. I guess just the excitment of that first kiss and that first time you have sex which the first time is in the past with whom you have. Not sure if this is it or just the variety. That doesn't mean we have to act out on it. However, alot of fantasy is going on in my mind. I could type forever on this and still not understand so I will spare everyone a legnthy explanation. Ifyou want to hear it let me know by contacting me via email.
2006-06-13 13:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by Baghdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. I've been in relationships where I have had that same feeling. I have acted on it before and although I felt guilty afterwords, it still felt exciting and fun. If you are hard and can live with the guilt then have fun. I haven't done it since I've been married but I think about it daily. I think I will act when I meet that irresistible women. We should talk privately:)
2006-06-13 13:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is wrong and adulterous and you may dream and fantasize about it but if it ever becomes reality you will bring only pain to your life and marriage and relationship with your husband. Not a good idea. If you truley love your spouse as you say you do then do not do this and remember just how much you should really love and respect him and your marriage! If he did this to you and your marriage how would you feel? Would it hurt you? Think about this long and hard before you do it and put yourself in his shoes before you act or choose to act on it. Why would you want to hurt and ruing this marriage if you are truley happy in it?
2006-06-13 13:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical human emotion. We all get bored at times...then something happens and excitement returns...chill out, use fantasy....no harm. Take it for what it is...nothing but thoughts of freedom to escape what happens when life becomes the same day after day. Find new things to do together, get some excitement flowing...things will get bright again.
2006-06-13 13:25:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your age I believe you feel as though you might have missed out on something or you are not as happy as you say you are. If you truly love your husband then those cravings would not be as such. Cast those cravings out like cold water to a flame.
2006-06-13 14:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by Bastard 1971 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure. I've been married for a year and a half, although not always happily, and I've had those thoughts also. I just keep telling myself "the grass isn't always greener on the other side"
Good luck.
2006-06-13 13:18:58 · answer #10 · answered by Ki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋