I have scars from cutting myself? what should I do?

Question

I have scars on my sholders and some on my arms from cutting myself. I had done it when I was having a horrible time with an event that had happened. I could not tell anyone so I went to cutting myself. One of my friends saw them and accidently let it slip to another friend that I had cut myself. Now he thinks I am like suicidle and is telling people that I am like crazy. What can I do to clear my name, and tell these people there is nothing wrong with me?

im not cutting myself anymore. It is more the fact that my friends found out. a couple are like flipping out and then that one guy thinks i am like suisidle or something. The scars arenot anything major the are prity small and dont show up much.

Answer 1

Get that stuff that makes scars disapear. I dont know if it works or not but if you really care that much what people think about you you should try it. And personally i think it is ok to have scars becuase people who really care would except you for you with scars and all. Hope i helped.

Answer 2

Hi! you first need to go for councelling and get your groove back. Most people think that once they have gotten over a certain suituation alls good. No way! There is still alot you have to get over with and then come to terms with yourself. Nobody will love you or even have confidence in you so long as you do do not do the same to yourself first. Your name will then clear naturally especially when you are exuding such confidence and joy in yourself and the fact that you can and are enjoying every single moment of your life....... Once you work on your psyc then all the rest will fall in place. Healing begins in your head first. The physical markscan and will go with time. the body is a permanent healing machine. It is permanently on a role to heal itself. You can only aid it. Try something like Bio Oil. It aids in scar removal. Thereafter love yourself thoroughly. Be good and enjoy whatever it is the good Lord has provided for you. Show the world what your Mama gave you and many otherswill appreciate you.

Answer 3

First off, your other friend doesn't seem like a friend at all. If anyone asks you, just say that it's personal and none of their business. If the people at your school have hearts, they won't think there's anything wrong w/ you, they'll accept you for who you are. And if they don't just switch schools. Believe me you do NOT deserve to have to put up with crap from anyone after the terrible thing that happened to you.

About the scars, you could get that...I think it's a cream?...That helps scars go away/ fade a bit. If that doesn't work, use concealer.

Good luck and I'm sorry that you had to go through whatever you did. I admire you for not holding on to your depression, and for asking us for advice on how to get rid of your scars. This signifies that you want a fresh start. Props, girl!

Sailor Star Fighter, out!

Answer 4

well mederma can help fade the little scars and the friends well you can tell them its no big deal, happened a long time ago and let it blow over as it eventually will. if they are REAL friends they will let it be, if they aren't well that is a good thing to know. As for the friend spreading rumors and chaos well is she really a friend? tell her to friggin drop it already. I have BAD permenent scars from when I was in my teens and had a horrible life. I am in my 40's now and every once in awhile someone will inquire and I will tell them it was from trouble from when I was a kid. If they try to push it I firmly say they are signs of a time long past and thats where I would like to leave it. that usually shuts them up.

Answer 5

You probably can't make them understand. People are going to think what they want to. The only thing that you should be concerned about is how good of friend this person is to have let something like that slip. I am sorry about your situation. I went through a similar experience when I was younger. I use to make myself sick, cut, I shaved the underneath of my hair. Funny thing was no one ever noticed. Not even my mom. I hope it gets better for you.

Answer 6

I wouldn't exactly call them your friends because something serious as that should not be thrown out to others in that way that this person did. As for clearing your name, never be ashamed of who you are, things like this happen for a reason that is beyond ones control it is a way of dealing with issues in your life that cause you pain, anxiety, depression. If I were you I would look for friends that would rather ask and keep the details to themselves and be a true friend

Answer 7

My little sister had the same thing on her legs and her arms, She cut herself for a couple of years and now has to look at them everyday. It makes her very sad, but the cream that makes scars lighter really works. It doesnt take them away all together but it does make them lighter. Good luck in making sure you are careful with yourself, that is the only body that you will get, take care of it while you can.

Answer 8

you are who you are..now, scars can be removed with hyluronic acid and lessened with salicytic acid(aspirin) creme for scars...you did this to yourself...there is something your body is also telling you about the scars and with hindsight as a good teacher..it could benefit you to write down what you might see as a pattern of behavior and a cycle of things that caused this event to occur...so much to learn from why this was done...but, it is done, no sense in beating yourself up over that...now, to make the best of what you have...

no one will be able to judge you rightly but if you depend upon other's opinions of you to validate yourself, then you need people really in the wrong way...sometimes there is something for silence, even when you want to talk...take a moment to look at people around you and notice the ones who see only the scars and make up judgements about you and your life based upon what they see...

then, wait for the people who see past the scars, even if it is hard, the ones who try to understand, and they may ask all the wrong questions and you can tell these people apart simply by one method...what they do afterward. I must assume you are young and in this setting, you have a manipulative weakness, now rather than have to explore one's own shortcomings, you become an easy external target to attack and most people your age are weak minded and if you like to call it that, weak souled...they will gather together like a public stoning because there is strength in numbers and these people cannot stand alone...you may even be one of these people...no real problem..but it is a good time to assess who you are to you...

get to know and understand yourself, remember yourself and before you take action, observe both yourself and others and really consider whether you want that "weak crowd" or the rare one or two people in your life who really "get" you as you are..and not as you only appear....

you will not clear your name, these people will always have a "problem" but you do not have to have this "problem" if yo uahve moved past it...f**k them if they have no capacity to look beyond..you will only be worse for hoping to gain their approval anyways.

Answer 9

Since you know that these cuts were something from the past and you are not doing it anymore, conceal them insofar as is possible and don't let them make you stand out as different. Don't confide to "friends" about the past problem. Rub vitamin E oil on them (not generously enough to stain your clothing, just a little and rub it in. ) People whom you are with do not have to know everything about you.

Answer 10

Stop cutting yourself first. Second get a cream with Aloe Vera in it. Worked on the scar I got from getting hit in the head with a baseball bat.