He just turned 2 on June 1st and he's out of control. He screams and tells me "no". Points his finger at me like if he's shooting me with a gun and actually makes the noises of a gun. When i send him to his room, he comes back out over and over. A spank on the but doesn't faze him either. I dont know what to do.
2006-06-13 12:48:34 · 8 answers · asked by Monique G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
first thing, is remember he is only two - and you are looking at him as if he should know right from wrong already - but it is your job right now to teach him.
If you yell, he is learning to yell - if you hit, he is learning to hit. No matter how angry you get with him, you have to remain calm, get down to his level, and talk to him....calmly. You rule the roost, not him.
Establish a chair, or a corner in the home where he does not have access to toys or TV. This is where he goes when he is naughty and the rule of thumb is a minute for each year the child is of age. Do not use his room as a punishment place. His room should be his sanctuary, the place he plays and sleeps - and that is it.
You sit him in the chair, you tell him why he is being put there, and every time he tries to leave, you put him right back on it. No discussion, just plop him back on the chair. When the time is up, you again, get down to his level and ask for an apology. If he acts up - you don't argue with him, you keep him on the chair and come back in another few minutes and try again.
Also start to institute where he loses something if he is naughty, if he has a favorite TV show or video, he can't watch it the rest of the day.
You are going to get a lot of screaming and defiance for a while, but the main thing, the most important thing, is that no matter waht - you stay CONSISTENT with your punishment. To where he learns if he does "X" he is going to get "Y" in punishment. Right now, more than likely, you get so frustrated with him you don't follow through on your threats - and he has learned how to manipulate that.
e-mail me if you want more help....
2006-06-13 13:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a daughter who went throught the terrible 2 at the age of 3 1/2.... you have to be firm, if spanking don't work, do the time out, do not send him to his room because more than likely he has toys in there... place him on a step at the bottom of the stairs or in a little stool, everytime he gets up, you PUT him back in there, everytime he pretends to shoot you place him in that chair... he will fight at first but if you keep making him sit there for 2min to start and then 3 min 5min... until he stops sooner or later his behaivor will change.... don't give up I have been there 2x.
2006-06-13 19:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by tweeterbird73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids dont just make this stuff up they learn it by knowing they do not have to do what you say. I was in a very similar situation until my g/f showed me how to do things right, now i have a very well behaved, well manered, and loving son. YOU are the parent start acting like it. spanking does not work either, it shows them that violence is ok when you do not get your way. do you want him beating future g/f's?
stand your ground, do not let a 2yo push you around. you have the power to take everything away except a place to sleep and a sheet, he can earn back everything else and believe me they understand, just never back down...he will learn that it is easier to just do what he is told then to fight it, and the longer you wait the harder it gets.
2006-06-13 20:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by hate dept 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a time out if sit him in a chair in the corner facing the wall he cant move for 2 minutes or take away a toy his favorite and say when you listen you can have it back or get a jar piggy bank and show him everytime your good and listen to mommy i will give you a quarter and when the jar gets full you can go buy something nice at the toy store or make a board and put stars and little things to stick on the board and when hes bad remove one and when hes good give him one if that doesnt workk call nanny 911 or super nanny tthey can help go to reality tv casting goggle that and youll find them
2006-06-13 20:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe start with your pediatrician, just share with the Dr. what you are going through. The terrible twos are actually a good sign to a point, they represent normal and necessary development. You might want to ask more questions if you didn't go through this stage. Also share with other moms and just listen to their take. So much more could be added but lets see what others have to say. Good luck!
2006-06-13 19:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by texasben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to have favorite toys or movies. Take them away until he calms down. spanking a child now days has no effect. I feel for you. Just wait till you get to the three's.
2006-06-13 19:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok listen carefully.1st dont hit the child just listen too what thay have to say.children have a dirrerent way of communicating as thay dont know or care about social norms.most of the time just spending time with the child will help calm him down.be the parent who listens to the child.be there friend not there enemy
2006-06-13 23:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by derek m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone (MOMMY) need to monitor and limit a certain three year olds television!
2006-06-13 19:55:40 · answer #8 · answered by Melimel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋