I'm not exactly the ladies' man at my school, and most people all ready treat me like I've detonated their house or something. I just want to make more friends, but no one understands me (they don't even TRY) and I am just a normal guy who uses big vocab. (Don't tell me to stop using the big vocab for those of you with the clever mind)
2006-06-13 12:40:14 · 17 answers · asked by germanchineseNATE 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Growing up is a tough job. Don't dwell on those who try to make you miserable. More often than not, when a person is insecure, they tend to focus on the approval of everyone around them. But the key here is, you DON'T need anyone's approval to be yourself. If they can't accept you for who you are, you are better off to focus on finding real friends that will accept you for you. That being said, look forward, keep your chin up, stay positive and grasp that vocabulary to your advantage. Life is to short to hunger for the things that are a waste of time.
2006-06-13 12:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by doll_collector 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I'm in somewhat the same boat and I know what it is like. Heres some advice: First: see yourself as a talented individual not a geek or a nerd. Second: Do not act like the world is conspiring against you, no matter how hard it is. You can must make exceptions for the less verbally or academically versed. Finally Dont close off doors to opportunities because you feel hopeless. Oh and do not listen to joelr500.
2006-06-13 20:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by The>I<Mediator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You possibly have a very high IQ and know more than other people. I was like that..still am actually...and someone said they knew what my problem was and sent me to do a Mensa Test.
They were right, and thats what you should do too.
You just have to learn to live with it and gravitate towards other people like yourself...there are others round too just as smart.
Do you really want to be liked by everyone?
Its not possible and also these people would not be on your wavelength, and will never like you anyway, so why waste energy even thinking about it.....Go make your mark on the world instead.
Go do some tickle tests and find out about yourself..and learn to accept that you are a brainy nerd...and find out your other strengths too.
http://www.tickle.com
2006-06-13 21:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by Maggi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not the vocabulary but the attitude. If people feel that you are putting them down or looking down on them, they won't want to hang out with you. Maybe you need to talk less and get involved with some activity where you actually do things with other people: a club, a service organization, whatever. Let people see what a cool, generous, helpful person you are. Give them a reason to like you.
2006-06-13 19:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by just♪wondering 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then I won't tell you to stop. You made your choice to use a vocabulary which others find either arrogant or confusing. Now do not be surprised when others avoid you.
Just for the record, people who use words which do not help in the communication process are limiting those who might feel comfortable around them. Either get with the program (use words that others can understand) or remove yourself to an ivory tower were everyone wants to use their big vocabulary.
2006-06-13 21:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by Richard 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Everyone else has said the obvious nerd-dom responses, so I won't reiterate. (Yay for big vocabulary! :P)
However, there's also the fact that kids in school will find ANY excuse to treat you like crap. If it wasn't your vocabulary, it'd be your shoes, or your hair being too long or short, or your parents not making enough money, or any of a bazillion other things. If there's no real reason, they'll make one up. Kids are just plain cruel. :/
2006-06-13 21:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by onyxflame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nerds only exist in the artifical microcosom we call school. Beyond that is the real world were you will be called Boss, Sir, or Mr.
Those that mocked you will then be reffered to with the following "Hey you I wanted A diet coke with my Big mac"
2006-06-13 19:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by rache001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be trying to socialize but maybe youre doing it from the wrong angle. Try to find things in common with other people like music or television then talk about that. It helped me after I changed schools a lot.
2006-06-13 19:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by NewFoundStory 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally stupid people feel better about themselves when they make others feel like crap. There is nothing wrong with being eloquent in speech. Don't worry so much about getting these jerks approval, just be you. You'll meet people with common interest and hopefully people who enjoy you for who you are not who you conform yourself to be. I was in your shoes when I was in school. It took me a while but when I came into my own identity and was confident in myself, there a magnetism that draws other people to you.
2006-06-13 19:53:24 · answer #9 · answered by Levi I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stick to who you are and you will find friends, don't try to be someone else. Join more clubs, go to dances, do community service and other things to meet other people with the same interests as you.
2006-06-13 19:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by Rice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋