MY BF wants to have (embarrassed) anal.........?

Question

i feel embarrassed asking this,,, but, we really wants to , and im so scarred, what can i do to make myself "loosen up" lol , well, you know what i mean, like what can i do to just go for it... once we tried and right when it was starting to go in, i just had to back up and say "GET OFF" if feel horrible..... and well, some one help...girls with experience..HELP..does it feel better as time progresses? if so, how? and what positions are more helpful, the more info the better...thanks everyone!!

lol..thanks so much, and believe me IVE TOLD HIM TO TRY AND STICK * INCHES IN HIS BUTT, but he just laughs,,,and i say thats NOT FUNNY!! lol

Answer 1

I've really already just answered this kind of question for another person, yet the answer is JUST as valid and helpful to you, so I've copied/pasted it below. Then I've elaborated/edited to address the things you've said and asked about.

you CAN do this and enjoy it too!!!

Yer bottom is biologicly, um, handling things LEAVING yer body. Yet from a sexual perspective, that part of the female body has delicious and wonderful nerve endings that can and should be beautifully stimulated and thus provide AWESOME orgasms.

I'm presuming you've not done this before..... so getting into bed and Hey, lets try anal....... is not the BEST way to start. It'll end up being painful and result in you not looking for it again..... and thus missing out on fun/pleasure and enjoyment you deserve (YES DESERVE!!!). Very many women are sour on the idea of anal sex for just this reason.

The best course is to GO slow!!!! Like months, or at LEAST weeks. When you masterbate, or your Significant Other (SO), is playing with you down there, have him lick, rub and touch without penetration for weeks... yes weeks. Patience is the key. One other starting point that can further lead to success.... always be clean. Always wash/bathe/shower and be squeeky clean....... and be ready to go back in clean yerself some more........ you might not always know if you are clean enough, so encourage him to let you know, and always take things like that gracefully---and APPRECIATE it when he tells you.

Next, always approach this (as with everythign else in life) positively, and with enthusiasm. You'll be far more successful. Relax, and work positively to STAY relaxed. it truely takes longer and is potentially 'more' painful by tensing up. Remember, this is something you WANT to enjoy...... do you enjoy other things in life by being tense???

So after weeks of touching, playing, rubbing, and licking back there whenever you DO get the chance to play, then work towards slowly, patiently and ready to stop...... by inserting one small finger a little bit. Go further when ready, stop when ya need to. It may very well be another week or three of SLOW, patient insertion and removal of a single finger to BEGIN to get comfortable. At your pace, work to get that finger sliding in and out all the way.... comfortablly. um, YES you can do that, and much more, too.

When you think you are ready, work up to two fingers. Back it down down to one when its too much, but be ready to accept a 'little' (i.e. MINOR) discomfort, in order to grow, to expand back there and to lean to enjoy it. more than a LITTLE discomfort is wrong, and is to be avoided.

Go slow, at a pace your body can tolerate. When you are ready, move up to three fingers........ but compare the size of three fingers to your partner's equipment........... assuming 3 fingers is appropriate, and you've even C**u**M a few times (hopefully), then you might be ready to GO FOR IT.

Again, use time, patience, go slow, and always both of you should be ready to stop.

Eventually, you'll be liking it and enjoying it as many many many others already do. Yes, to answer YOUR question, it DOES get better, funn'er and is beautiful/special between two people who try this together, and especially as more time passes. :) It can and should be a regular NORMAL part of your sex life.

There is quite a bit more that could be shared, though not always appropriate for public forums----If you wish to discuss privately, my name is the same for my email here on yahell. :) Again, best to you!

Answer 2

I've been married 9 years and sometimes let my husband do it. It's not that great for me and can sometimes be painful. I don't think it gets better over time but some times can be better than others. I also don't believe girls who say that they really get any large amount of pleasure out of it. It's more something you do for your guy. I definitely recommend a lot of prep time. Use TONS of ky jelly and him use one finger first, real gente. Then maybe go to two fingers. That sort of thing. For me the easiest position for this is doggie style with my rear up in the air and resting my head on my pillow. Remember though that if you really don't want to do it, then don't.

Answer 3

Don't do anything you don't want to do... but...

Lots of lube is a must. Don't start with the penis.. a finger first to get things relaxed and opened up. You may have to do that a few times until you get relaxed and used to the idea. Many women experience intense orgasms that way once they learn to relax.

And, when you do try to go for the penis there, you control the movements so you can adjust the speed and intensity!!

Good luck and let us know how it goes!! :)

Answer 4

First of all, only do it if you BOTH want to. Then if you decide to,like all the other answers you need to use lots of lube in addition to having him 'loosen' you up a little, both 'physically' and 'mentally' by using his fingers first. I NEVER let my ex-husband do it cuz I wasn't comfortable with it but my fiance and I have a wonderful relationship; it is much much different than my relationship with my husband and I am much more open to new experiences with him and how it is something that we both enjoy immensely

Answer 5

Tough one...you have to be ready for it and want to try it is the best answer. I hear it does get easier as time progresses. Do a lot of forplay and use a lot of lubricant. Take you time....tell him to take his. Tell him to be gental. If it hurts or you dont like it tell him to stop and try again later. You will know when you are ready. Oh, and a hint of something to use...mix a little orajel with whatever lubricant you use...it does numb you somewhat...an makes it somewhat easier. Good luck!

Answer 6

lol well its notmy favourite thing but he does get his way sometimes andithurts like a mofo......it doesnt get a whole lot better with time cuz unless u do it every day ur never gonna be really loose.....i guess doggy style is the most comfortable way..always rememberno matter what if it hurts too much just ask him to stop and MAKE SURE YOU GUYS USELUBE!!! PLEASE!!

Answer 7

my EX gf said it got better the more we did it, don try to sit on it, get in doggy style and let him not to hard but press it in, use som lub, and just do it for maybe a min or so and take it out and go a lil more the next. first time i did it, she took it out and said it felt like she was gonna sh*t on my dick, ha

Answer 8

That is a one way chute only and can cause internal problems , he should try the toilet where the rest of the bacteria is ! lol , where is he going to put it after ?

Answer 9

a lot of lubing helps. &a condom [for protection]! tell your partner to take it slowly at first. there are fragile tissues & you dont want to break them. once you are accustomed, you can go at a different speed.

Answer 10

Use lots of lubrication. I have never had anal, and wont. It causes fissures and hemorrhoids.......and it doesn't hurt as much if you do it a lot and stretch your anus. I wouldn't do it.