ok my boyfriend and i just broke up because i found a email that he wrote his ex-girl telling her he miss her and if she was married! i was really hurt and i trusted him! we been together for 2years now and it hurts like hell. Seens then i been over there almost everyday but we are not together. i just found out that i am preg i am so sad what should i do??????????????
2006-06-13 12:08:56 · 21 answers · asked by so sad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tell him your preg. tell yoru parents your preg, and quit having sex at such a young age
2006-06-13 12:11:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might be the toughest ?uestiion i've answered. I dont believe in abortions. And whe nu have a family or expecting, from what I've observed, people tend to try a little harder. He needs to your your pregnant. Next, you need see if he wants forgiviness, see if he wants to try the relationship again (yes that means the possibility of taking him back), and u need to him to tell u how much he loves u and to explain himself about that emai lto his ex.
ok. If he is not inlove with you and agrees it should be over then it is! As far as your baby, take care of yourself and love you ad the baby. Then make a DOCUMENTED agreement so he can start giving u $$$ for the baby. U both deserve this and he should be more than willing. Babys have MANY MANY needs, get as much as u can early so it'll be easy later on.
whew! ok next, if he wants to really try the relationship again and be a father and perhaps husband. Dont take him back for a few months, like 3 t least. Let him show you by being there for the baby, calling and checking on u everyday, and being LESS stressful as possible. Let him spoil u rotton!!!. And after the WAIT PERIOD, if u want, then try it again letting him know that if he even things about disrespecting uand the relationship and now the mother of his baby ever again, the only relationship you'll have with him will be CHILD SUPPORT.
Good Luck hun and think things through. Relax and rest. and EAT!
2006-06-13 19:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry about your problem first and foremost but you have to talk to him. Tell him how he hurt you. Not to mention that you going over to his house almost every day just adds up more to your hurting. You need to also go into another perspective maybe he was not cheating on because there is a chance that he has no interest in her. Many guys keep in touch with ex's (this might be true because you two are still hanging out.) So maybe he was just checking up on her. I am not saying this is what he was doing because I don't know, but i do know you have to find out from him why he did that not just assume that he is cheating. You have been together for two years that shows he loves you so he would not try to hurt you. Plus you are pregant and he needs to know that. My real piece of advice i must say and I am saying over and over is that you have to talk if not for the sake of your relantionship than talk for your baby.
Good Luck
2006-06-13 19:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAVE THE CHILD> Look you may hurt bad now, but if you let him play with your emotions you are putting you and the childs health in danger. Besides if he can't be man enough to stand by you then he isn't worth it. Tell him your pregnant. HE can not just have sex with you and have you on the side then be someone elses boyfriend. It isn't right and you shouldn't let that be an option. Love yourself and the child enough to keep yourself out of a situation where you will think you are second best. Don't worry about him. You have a child, which will be the best part of him I am sure. Keep your head up, don't stress it will make things harder. Good Luck
2006-06-13 19:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Him The Truth. If He's A Real Man He Will Attempt To Take Care Of You And Your Baby. If He Blows You Off Then You Know He's Not The Guy For You. There Is Always Someone Who Will Be There For You 100%
2006-06-13 19:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by nitehawk8075 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your boyfriend is even somewhat emotionally involved with another woman, you need to leave him. You deserve better than him. I realize you have been in this relationship for 2 years, but if you leave him now, it is only 2 years of your life. If you stay with him and "work things out", eventually, he will hurt you again. You need a guy who is committed to you. As far as your baby... you need to decide whether or not to keep it or give it up for ADOPTion if you are not quite ready for a child. If you are more than 3 weeks along, it already has a heartbeat. You still have a chance to move on with your life and stand strong. Good luck! :)
2006-06-13 19:19:01 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. you should tell him that your pregnant if you haven't. if he denying ya'lls kid, go to maury's show for real. tell him how you feel. ask him does he even love you. i mean was you and his relationship a joke or something. he probably still has some feelings for her but, ask him those questions. if he ain't willing to be there for you and he says he doesn't love you, then move on. no matter how much you love him, go on, make him pay child support, don't go back to him either. because you don't be waisting your time with that boy, when he ain't for real. because you need to do whats best for your child thats coming soon. i mean just go on take care of your baby and you'll find another man don't give the baby up either. be a good/ smart person and keep your baby and give your baby a good life. you then show him that you didn't need him and your child will be on his case why he wasn't there and you'll be the better person.
2006-06-13 19:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Young Beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am really sorry to hear ur story... first decise whether u want to be with him or not.... and well if gets to know that ur pregnant then it might change him too... but since things have gone too far just dont be angry and leave him.... even though he did some thing really bad.... so talk to him... and u will feel wht u need to do.. may be u will feel tht okay u can forgive him and might be in a possition to welcomeback he in to ur life.. if he really wants u... and if it turn out to be tht u cant get over wht he did and still feel soo disgusting about the whole issue then.. have to deal alone with it... may be a abortion would be a answer too.. wht ever the situation is...
2006-06-13 19:16:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) U shouldn't have gotten mad. He may have missed her on a friendship level.
2) U should tell him that you're pregnant, and find a way 2 get back 2gether. Tell him the truth, and let hom know that you're not saying this because u want him back.
That really wasn't a reason 2 break up with him.
2006-06-13 19:15:22 · answer #9 · answered by Tyegirl01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he wrote an email does not mean he wants her back. Talk to him about it and find out if he wants to commit to you or if he is looking to get the ex back. Be honest with him and tell him you are pregnant. See what he says. Either way, you will be ok with or without him.
2006-06-13 19:12:39 · answer #10 · answered by notmyfirstride 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly sweetie, you don't need him! If you truely love him and think he loves you too, then you need to talk to him about the relationship.
You need to tell him about the baby regardless because he has a right to know, but don't get back with him just because you're pregnant. That's the worst reason in the WORLD to be with someone.
2006-06-13 19:16:05 · answer #11 · answered by blahblahgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋