How do I figure out the best way to tell my friend I am feeling taking advantage of or used?

Question

Every time we talk she is asking me for something, to borrow or have something I own, or for me to do something for her. The last few times I have loaned to her things have gotten destroyed or not returned. Every time I ask for something from her, she acts as if it is such a burden. And now, she is coming to my house and taking things without asking. I lock the door but, she is only supposed to have a spare key for an emergency.
It has gotten to the point that I don't think I want anything to do with her.
This is also not a childish issue, we are both married women with children almost in our thirties.

Answer 1

Tell her, she is apparently using you and it's best to leave her finally... take back the key or change your door knob so that she cannot plot her vengence. She might apologize if she treasures the friendship. If it might go to the point where she may be psyco... then contact the authorties. I just hate people who take advantage of me... those who take advtange of other people will get a piece of karma up their arses in no time.

Answer 2

Sometimes our so called FRIENDS mistaken our KINDNESS for WEAKNESS . Time to introduce your so called Friend to the word NO , Bam bottom line. Sometimes we need to be the SALT of the earth. Especially when you already know it is taking place ,, being taking advantage of , Sorry sweetie but sometimes in life we need to WEED out the NEGATIVE PEOPLE from our circle. Sorry that person has the definition a friend and a sucker confused. Good thing you have us all to help you through this agonizing time! MuCH LOVE AND LUCK to you there are real people that want to be real friends left out there !~ take care and GOD BLESS and as for the key she needs to simply give it back. or you may need to take it a step further AUTHORITIES

Answer 3

It sounds like you are a giving and caring person - and that you have found someone who knows that all too well!

I would stop gradually the giving and sharing with her on her terms. She may well find that 'we have grown apart' and the like when her needs aren't met by you over and over.

I would find a subtle reason to get your key back (one of your kids lost theirs or something like that) before doing any necessary confrontations in case she is far too comfortable leaching off you to let go without a fight.

and as regard it not being a 'childish issue' i never ceases to amaze me how childish some people are regardless of their age or status in life - but take precautions on being 'used up' by others selfishness before it happens