How can I still have feelings for the woman I am separated from, and now pending a divorce ?
This woman made my life a living hell, and hurt me in ways that I never thought possible ?
2006-06-13 11:46:41 · 16 answers · asked by Mr. Insecurity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because you loved her once. Sometimes the good memories block out the bad ones. I do this with my ex all the time and then start missing her badly. Next thing, I remember the hurt and confusion and I start to remember why we broke up.
There's no harm in still feeling for her man. That's a natrual thing when you've loved someone a lot. You don't want to remember the hurt, only the love.
2006-06-14 03:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by theallknowingscouser 3 · 18⤊ 2⤋
i know where you are coming from my when i got divorced my ex made my life a living hell hurt me and my familly made it impossible to see my children using them in her silly games. it got that bad that my parents had to move and so did i i cant let her know were i live or where my parents are even now 7 years on. But i still have feelings for her i suppose i still love here in a way im not in love but she is the mother of my children and we did spend 9 years together - no normal person can just turn these feeling totally off no matter what has gone on in the past.
you just need to put those feeling in a place in the back of your mind - they may always be there but you will visit them less as time goes on, just dont dwell on them it will do you or herno good in the end
2006-06-13 21:07:18 · answer #2 · answered by Sam Urai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of your own self worth. You do not feel that you deserve any better. You do. Everyone does! Let her go. You are better off without her. There is a good woman out there who will treat you as well as you treat her, and you will be happy with each other. Don't beat up on yourself, and appreciate your own value. Even if you are alone for a while (even a long while) you are better off! And yes, I have been there as well! Good luck!
2006-06-13 21:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by ianchelseanutter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal and okay. There is notthing wrong with this. How has she made your life a living hell if i may ask? What is causing the divorce... Is your marriage beyond repair and help and have you done everything you could do by going to counseling and stuff and try to save it if at all. Is she open to reconciliation at all?
2006-06-13 11:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you truly loved her with your whole heart and poured your whole life and soul out for her and now you feeel like all that hard work was for nothing and you feel hurt and just want that same love you gave her back in return. You deserve that love and if she can;t give it to you becuase she is SELFiSH then don;t worry..time will heal you. Just try to talk to a counselor. this will help get your feelings out. then start going ot places that have adults interested in the same thing you are. good luck
2006-06-13 11:54:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some people are more loyal and loving than others and don't give up easily. It happens in all aspects of life and relationships, it's hurtful but given time you will move on.
2006-06-13 20:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by xbkw46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i been married 20 years and she came home told me been having affair 2 months that hurt all can tell ya way you think allways have feelings for woman and will care but time heals and gotta let her go .....you will find someone else and might turn out be best thing ever happened too ya
2006-06-13 11:52:52 · answer #7 · answered by kickstartmyheart4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for you.
I suppose you love her. Now, it is in your interest to let go of the relationship.
There is some sort of dependancy people can get into and it is very difficult to get out of it.
Make the best out of the situation. In the long run, you will find your balance again and you will find someone who you love and who treats you well.
All the best to you.
2006-06-13 23:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by Claire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you can't turn love off like a tap, it's a gradual process, no matter how badly someone's been treated. Give yourself time and follow your own gut feelings, you'll know when it's over when you become indifferent to her.
2006-06-13 12:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same boat , so dont feel alone. i gotta a month old baby by this man. and he treated me like hell and left me while i was preg.. and he has nothing to do wit the child.. yet im so dumb i still have feelings.... its crazy.. ull find each day gets better and better...... ur in love with love not her....
2006-06-13 12:36:51 · answer #10 · answered by ♫♪♥PUSSaY FART♫♪♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋