I have been married for only 2 months (yes, newlyweds!!). I just would like to see what you all have to say; if you could attribute one thing to your happy marriage, what would it be? Communication is the most basic, I think. What else?
2006-06-13 11:38:58 · 17 answers · asked by ShineOnYouCrazyDiamond 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-06-13 11:47:48 · update #1
Honesty and trust.... Unselfishness and treating and loving them the way you want to be treated. Commitment and loyalty. Not trying to change the other person but instead changing yourself to be the best spouse you can possibly be. Forgiveness is key too. Intamacy is important too!
2006-06-13 11:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ben 621 & Fast Steve gave great answers! I won't tell you what YOU need, instead I'll tell you what we do. My husband & I have been married for 9 years, together for 10 years. We got married when I was 16, he was 17! NO I WASNOT PREGNANT!!! We just had a connection, a love so strong. I felt like I couldn't breath when I was away from him at night! I would cry for him, I couldn't wait till the next time I could see him & you know I still feel that way to this day after 9 years & two kids, and many many hard roads. During the times when things would get hard, I would always look at him and I would remember all the many reason I feel in love with him in the first place. Really the only things we ever argue about is him working alot of long hours. He is in service work, so when a call comes he has to go. Also even though we have had a roller coaster of financial times we have NEVER fought about money. We just laugh and say oh well it's just money we can make more!!!!!! :) Good luck! Sorry for the long story!!!!
2006-06-13 20:51:47 · answer #2 · answered by jmbmk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1>Always be nice and respectful toward each other even when there is a disagreement. 2>Never allow another person to "get into" your marriage - be it an "interested" third party, family, etc.
3> Take responsibility for your happiness and don't ever blame your spouse for your unhappiness (don't be a victim).
4> Learn what your spouse values, even if you don't understand why, and make sure he gets what he wants.
5>Do fun things together.
6>Maintain your appearance by exercising and eating healthy.
7> If there is something on your mind, it is critical that you communicate this in a considerate manner - people aren't mind readers.
8> Make sure you have a sufficient "rainy day fund" so that money is not an issue.
9> Before having children, do many fun things together - like travelling, dining out, shopping - whatever it is you enjoy so when you start a family, you will have no regrets.
10> Never commit adultery or have an emotional affair - even if you are unhappy.
11> Read your vows to yourself daily and live according to them.
12> Forgive your spouse daily when he makes a mistake.
13> Pray with your spouse daily.
14> Only have a intimate emotional relationship with your spouse (never tell another man anything about yourself or your relationship with your husband).
15> Be totally honest, loyal and trustworthy toward your husband - no matter what. Your character should be intact no matter what another person says or does.
16> Take dance lessons with your husband!
2006-06-13 19:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are things that I feel HELP and not the formulas to success: -----Being from the same culture... of similar backgrounds... of similar intellects (very important) or similar educational backgrounds. A marriage is an adventure or journey of discovery... variety is the spice !!! Once a marriage/relationship becomes stale, well, beginning of the end. Do EVERYTHING together... BECOME ONE !! Most of all a marriage is a thing of maturity, not for the imature. It takes mature people to appreaciate his mate and therefore succeed.
2006-06-13 18:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes communication is number 1. Well i'll share this with you....
Be good in bed and in the kitchen and your husband will live a happy life. At least that's how I keep my husband very happy. Don't give him any reason to look for it somewhere else. So I can't say much, it's all about communication...
Allie( yo_010180@yahoo.com
2006-06-13 18:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by yo_010180 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already mentioned communication. Play the fool, remain a kid, take care the important things at home but do not grow up, tell jokes, be attentive to when to give a sincere compliment, know that you have a spouse but still date each other during the year. Make love in the car, always kiss good morning/goodnight. Overall, remain young at heart.
2006-06-13 18:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by alpha & omega 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is good. if you stay home and he works then make the house a place that he wants to come home to, just like you wold expect if the roles were switched. go on dates regualrly and. keep the romance alive. make out in your car like you used to. it doesn't have to lead to sex, but it is always fun. Prayer and church attendence brings in the spiritual side of your lover and that is very sexy.
2006-06-13 19:20:48 · answer #7 · answered by Ben 621 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Creating stress-free connection time on a regular, planned basis. A ritual could be as down-to-earth as enjoying coffee together after dinner or taking a short weekend walk. Think small, but be consistent.
2006-06-13 18:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by KingBubba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect for one another. Trust and Faith in each other that you would never do anything to hurt each other.
2006-06-13 19:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by Sharon J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest with each other even when it hurts. to always talk to each other. and rember why u feel in-love in the frist place
2006-06-13 19:00:37 · answer #10 · answered by amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋