Why dont they teach social skills in schools?....It seems Kids arent taught these skills at home anymore.?

Question

I have a child with a mild form of autism called Asperger's, and he has more common courtesy and empathy for others than so called "normal kids".

I also volunteer at the school and am amazed at the rudeness of the kids, but no matter what we do or say to these kids they know that they wont be held accountable for their actions no matter what the teachers say...

Answer 1

I am an Aspie with two children with Asperger's. I have to agree that there are a lot of children running around with very negative social skills. I think that one of the big differences is that children with Asperger's are taught where NT children learn from the environment. If the parents, teachers, other figures in the child's life are disrespectful then they will pick up on that. Where I live children are dumped outside for the summer and do not go home until ten to twelve at night. These children pick up on all the negative behaviors and have no structure or good role models. My children are not allowed outside unsupervised. If my children hit, hurt, or aggravate another child I am there to teach him it is wrong. There is no one there to teach the child who usually started the situation.

Answer 2

You are the reason for your child's behavor.

I have Asperger and I know the social struggles that a child goes through trying to fit in because they do not know how to behave.

Because you have taken time and tought your child how to behave, he does a very good job of it.

Unfortunately, it is not the job of the school to teach social behaviors, this is the function of family, friends, peers, etc. See, social skills learned by non-Asperger persons are learned through daily interaction. An Asperger person cannot learn that way and thus it has to be taught one on one. The same as how interaction will not teach an Asperger person well, so does one-on-one not work for normal people.

Now maybe there should be special ed classes for Asperger in school to reinforce what they should be learning at home and in therapy, but a full blown social skills class just would not work will with the normal kids.

Answer 3

I am a high school teacher. Although there is not class with the title "Social Skills 101" many teachers do in fact take the time to correct rude behavior in their classes. I advise a lot of my students in the correct way to behave in many social situations they might not have been in before. There are many ways to do this, and they are all forms of "teaching"

A lot of this depends on the climate of the school district and school building. Some will say there is no time to teach this, I agree if your talking about a class. I disagree if you mean role modeling and appropriate correction.

With all that said, the parents and home life play a much bigger role than I can ever hope to. Don't expect teachers to change your kids if you can't.

Answer 4

Children are products of there environment. Teachers have enough to do. Parents need to step up and be parents. The teachers didn't help bring this child into the world. Seems so many have no problem what so ever bringing not one not two but three or more and expect everybody else to raise them. Give me a break. These children deserve so much more. Everybody needs to blame someone, but the fact of the matter is, parents have to teach there children at home way before the child reaches school age.

Answer 5

Actually you're asking a question and making a statement as well.

"It seems kids aren't taught these skills at home anymore." Kids should first and foremost, be taught social skills at home and should not HAVE to rely on schools to teach these valuable lessons. Also, some kids exhibit behaviors that are contrary to what's taught at home so that their friends think they are cool. Thankfully, I see enough well-mannered children to balance the perception of negative behavior I witness from others.

Answer 6

Ok, well I am a teacher and all I have to say is that at school we can teach social skills, but if they aren't taught at home, they are a waste of time. It's sad but if kids don't see these skills modeled by adults in their lives (outside of school) they have a very difficult time at school.

Answer 7

I have been a teacher for many years. I believe social skills are mainly the responsibility of the home .I also know that most teachers expect children to be familiar with social skills and they reinforce them at school. You must be aware that many childrenhave them enforced at school. There are many subject to teach along with a lot of required testing

Answer 8

Teachers should not be required to teach kids those kind of skills, Parents need to take more active roles in their kids lives.

Answer 9

cause now a days teachers can't talk to kids or hit them like years ago now they can't even tell them to write some thing 100 times cause it's corporal " punishment " And when the parents are called they are worst than the kids them self

Answer 10

Levy more responsiblities on our underpaid teachers..

They are already so underpaid that it has become a "since I can't do xxxx, i'll teach" profession...

You don't exactly attract top notch people into the profession... They have touble teaching actual subjects, let alone being left as powerless disciplinarians as well.