The story gets a little complicated, but I have been friends with "Sara" for over 10 years, and she dated a guy for 7 years before getting married last year. I started dating her husband's brother almost 2 years ago. My boyfriend told me that "Sara's" husband went to a whore house, and my boyfriend is not sure whether it was the first time or not. I know I have loyalty to my friend because we have been close for so long, but I also have loyalty to my boyfriend...and if I tell my friend, I know my boyfriend's brother may never speak to him again. I think that she needs to know so she can get checked for STDs, but it may result in a divorce, my boyfriend's family breaking apart, and even us breaking up and we want to get married. HELP!
P.S. My boyfriend is the polar opposite of his brother, so I'm not worried he will do the same.
2006-06-13 11:24:17 · 8 answers · asked by txex 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you were my friend I would want you to tell me FOR SURE!!!!!!
2006-06-13 11:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by lisa p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can look at this many ways as ur friend I would deffinitely want to know. U need to look at the relationship U and ur friend has, U know if she is the type that will go to her man like "ur brother told his gf, my friend that U went to a whore house". this is not the person U give the info to. if she can hold the info U just gave her and use it against his butt then try and catch him red handed then she is the one U tell. U have to make sure she cares enough about u and his brothers relationship not to just bust it out and put yall in the middle of the mess. Look at all the ways this can blow up and make a big mess. analyze what u have in whole and make a decision that fits the scenario best. good luck!
2006-06-13 12:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you do anything you need to make sure you have all the facts correct. You need to sit down with your boyfriend and have a long talk about the situation. You need to get all the specifics and then tell him the position he has put you in by telling you in the first place. Explain to him the loyalty you feel towards your friend and to him and how confused you are on what you should do. Put a little guilt on him for opening his big mouth to begin with. He really needs to know how you feel. Take it from there. None of us can tell you without knowing all of the people involved that you should run off and destroy lives, but you really do need to talk more bout it with your boyfriend to find out how many times it has happened and with who he is doing it with and then you need to make that decision depending on how serious it is.
2006-06-13 11:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know oyu don;t want to break the trust of oyur husband, but what if he was his brother and you were the one getting cheated on?? She will need all the girl support she can get and to know that there are girls that there that don;t suck like that gilrs at that whore house that don;t care. She can still have a chance to be happy and yes what if she did get aids and stuff and you knew he was cheating ...would or could u live with that for the rest of your life??? PLEASE tell her
2006-06-13 11:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a throrough review of the facts, you're still positive he is guilty, I would confront him and tell him he has 24 hours to tell her before YOU tell her. (proof would be handy here so he can't weasel out of it). She would be better off hearing it from him than you. She might end up seeing the messenger as the bad guy.
2006-06-13 13:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've got a problem, your solution is to tell your long term friend and let her deal with it as she feels fit. she can either casually ask the question or be straight up with him, but the choice is hers..you are actually doing her a favor in the long run.
2006-06-13 11:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is none of your business. All you will end up doing is causing your friend to be mad at you. Believe me things like this always backfire right in your face. Leave it alone.
2006-06-13 11:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of friend would u be if u didnt wouldnt you want someone to tell you cause he sure wouldnt he a man and we never admit we fu#k up
2006-06-13 11:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by irondevil1968 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋