my father has always been the mean one and cant control his anger my mom want to leave him but never does. We love him but he makes it very hard. he threatens to kick me out and im 15. He says i can live with my boyfriend who is 18 but will that damage my family even more? I dont wanna damage it more then it already is. HELP!
2006-06-13 11:16:13 · 5 answers · asked by Jen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
does he have regular check-ups? sounds like he has high blood pressure.
2006-06-13 11:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need help from outside the family. Do you have a school counselor, pastor, or other adult that you can discuss this with? Abuse is apparent from your question and while you do not want to tear your family apart it is possible that legal intervention might be required to help you father. Your mother is probably codependent due to the years of abuse. Living with your boyfriend is, as you already know, a bad idea. It will complicate matters more than you can imagine. If you don't know any responsible adult ask your friends about their counselors or pastors. Getting help is the best thing you can do for yourself. You can even contact the local mental health center for no or low cost counseling. Do it for yourself, your mother and your father.
2006-06-13 18:23:00 · answer #2 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont move out and in with a boy at 15 hun. that may make the situation at home seem more managable but u have a long road ahead of u it would only make ur life worse. ur father has an anger issue? is he a drinker or a drug user? if he is well then it will never stop. ur mother isnt happy but she is hoping for a change in ur father. u r not the problem dont let anyone tell u u are. u are a child. ur father shouldnt ask u to get out at 15 if he is he isnt thinking about ur best interests dear. when they fight just try to block it out or leave for awhile so u dont have to see it, with time everything will run its course and there will be an ending to all the drama. its sad kids have to suffer but its life ive been there to. i was married at 16 and had a baby i love my kids to death but later in life i realized i had missed out on alot of things and in turn i ended up hurting the man in my life by cheating on him. not because i wanted to. i just had to find myself the person i missed out on as a child. be strong for ur mother she needs u leaving will make her hurt even more cause obviously ur father isnt there for her emotionally so u need to be...good luck hun i hope things get better for u
2006-06-13 19:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by ford_lovergirl_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first off hunnie u are 15 and Ur bf is 18 your dad is trying to keep you safe you bf can get in trouble for going out with a minor... all moms and dads do something and say something to make sure we grow up right and keep our heads on right when you get older and have kids you will see u will look back and think wow I'm just like my mom and dad or say i just sounded like my mom or my dad
2006-06-13 18:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mandie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad will come around when you get a little older. My family was the same way until I turned 17 ... As far as helping, I just stayed away, a lot. Tell him you love him, every day. When he gets mad, just stop and tell him you love him, and walk away.
2006-06-13 18:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by n0love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋