why doesnt my mom listen to me?

Question

why doesnt she listen to me?

Answer 1

Perhaps she does, and is not sure what the proper response is. Parents are fallable, no one is perfect and people don't always know what to do.

It can also depend on the question. If there is no specific or correct answer to the question, then the proper response is not to answer.

Answer 2

Often times it could simply be because she does not know how to listen. Or perhaps she is listening and you do not recognize it as that.

I learned from experience that when one of my parents became upset at me I would let them talk themsleves out - say all what they had to say and then either said, 'May I say something now?' or I would write a letter. That way they would have to listen and I was not near enough to be argued with.

Letters also help in thinking through what you are going to say and what point you are trying to make.

It helped me to see some of the time how my parents where right about some of the things they where saying and I was just being stubborn.

I hope this helps you some.

Just remember . . . she isn't perfect just like you aren't perfect . . . she is just trying her best . . . and maybe listening isn't her strong suit.

Answer 3

She does listen to you. But she is so busy trying to make sure you do the right thing, she fails to take the time to tell you that she hears your point of view, even if she does not agree with it.

Although you are frustrated now, you will understand this when you are older and have children of your own.

Parents do listen, but forget sometimes that they need to explain their position to those they love so much. They just don't want you to make the same mistakes they made when they were your age.

Answer 4

Maybe you need to tell her how you feel about her not listening and if she doesnt hear you yell at her. If that doesnt work i dont know but what ever you do dont try getting in to troiuble for attention that how i mesed up because my mom still doesnt listen to me.

Answer 5

I went through the same thing when I was a teenager. It was difficult to understand and even harder to accept. 30 some years later I think of how I played a part in it. I now realize that I was very impatient, short tempered, obnoxious, and always insisted on getting my way. But those are MY defects. I am not saying that you do those things, I'm just pointing out what I realized about me. Once you take your own inventory, you might see something that needs to be changed. One thing that any of us cannot change is another person. Parents have to be responsible for the income that enables a family to be stable. They might have things on their minds that require their attention and forget your needs. Try to approach her at a time that she seems relaxed and calmly talk about your feelings.

Answer 6

Are you sure that she doesn't? When I was younger I had the same question, but then I get the answer, she listen, but sometimes she doesn't know what you want from her. Tell her when you want or need a device, or when you don't. You need to talk to be heard. Is hard, I know, but not impossible.

Answer 7

because she thinks that she doing whats best for you. she probably just doesn't want you to get hurt or do any thing that you'll regret when you're older. try to think of things from her point of view you're her baby and she has a hard job I'm 16 and I've got a 5 year old baby sister, I'm getting to watch her grow up and it's scary because i know that I'll move away in a couple of years and wont be here to protect her any more it's really hard. try and give your mom
a brake. she doesn't want to lose you.

Answer 8

because there is a huge generation gap. Moms want the best for their children and they don't want you to make the same mistakes as they did or worse. She oves you but try to sit her down and tell her not to talk but listen....maybe she thinks she is but really isnt

Answer 9

What do you want your mom to listen to you about? My daughter has to just stop me and say mom I don't want your advice I just want you to listen to me.

Answer 10

parents always listen. they always hear what you say but they might just ignore you somewhat because she doesnt want to deal with what you have to say. if you want her to listen, then sit down with her and tell her that you need to talk out your issues and tell her to just let you talk and then she can state her opinion