I joined Big Brother/Big Sisters. I meet my little guy like on Thursday for the first time. His brother might be put in jain forever. He has a sister and a mom, no dad. I have no dad. What should I say to him? Do?
2006-06-13 11:03:15 · 5 answers · asked by Theo Black 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
YOU TELL THAT LITTLE ANGEL THAT YOU WILL BE THERE FOR HIM, AND YOU CAN'T CHANGE THE PAST OR WHAT HAS HAPPENED, BUT YOU CAN PROMISE HIM THAT YOU WILL NEVER DISAPPOINT HIM OR LEAVE HIM UNTIL HE WANTS YOU TO. YOU TELL HIM THAT YOU WILL BE THE BEST BROTHER HE COULD EVER IMAGINE HAVING.
THEN YOU LOOK YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR AND REALIZE THAT GOD HAS GIVEN YOU A CHANCE TO GIVE SOMEONE SOME SORT OF RELIEF TO HIS PAIN, AND A CHANCE FOR YOU TO GIVE WHAT YOU DIDN'T HAVE. THEREFORE YOU BOTH WILL BE BLESSED. AND YOU LOVE HIM LIKE A BROTHER, PRACTICE FOR YOUR FUTURE, GOD BLESS YOU FOR WHAT YOU ARE DOING, IT IS A WAY FOR BOTH TO HEAL.. LUV AND LIFE I ALWAYS SAY.....
2006-06-13 11:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by strawberry_nocturnal 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'm not so sure I would bring up any of the crap he's been through unless he brings it up first....I guess if he brings it up you have to be supportive and reassuring, listen to what he has to say and try to comfort him.
I don't even think I would bring up the fact that you don't have a dad, that might open some nasty wounds of his and upset him.
I think the important thing is to take him out and have fun with him. You're going to be his male rolemodel from here on out. Go out and do fun 'guy' stuff. Try to be a good influence. Show him a good time, I mean he comes from a crappy environment, so take him out to do stuff he doesn't get to do. =)
I guess the thing I would do would be to compile (and memorize) a list of questions...bring them up casually through out the course of the day. This will help you get to know him at which point you'll figure out what to talk about....Try talking about things both of you like (ie Art/Movies).
I think you're just in a panic b/c this is a new experience. I bet your kid is just as scared of you as you are of him. It might be weird at first, but I think eventually you'll fall into the friend/dad-ish mindset.
Good Luck, I hope all goes well for you and for your kid =)
2006-06-16 06:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I admire you. What do you tell him? The truth. The kid is already aware of this. You are his "big brother". Over time he'll want to discuss a lot with you. Start slow. Take him to the park. Pitch a frisbee, football, baseball. Keep it light. Take him for an ice cream. Take him to the zoo or children's museum. Pick things that are age appropriate and let him know you've been there, done that. Do a great job!
2006-06-13 11:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by snddupree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the no dad thing is a great start, just to let him know that he is not alone on that front... that other people have overcome such things... As far as the big bro goes just be there for him let him talk about it... I would encourage him to write his bro a letter... or maybe in the future you could take to visit....in jail....
it's important what your doing keep up the good work... you will make a difference for this little guy....
2006-06-13 11:08:57 · answer #4 · answered by frankzappa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first i would follow his lead,let him know you understand what it is like growing up w/out dad there cuz you did it! good luck,have fun!!! robin
2006-06-13 11:07:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋