My mom and dad are divorced. But they both got married again. I don't know how to get closer to my stepmom and stepdad.
2006-06-13 10:52:13 · 12 answers · asked by chaelle94 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sucks having step parents doesn't it? Especially when they try to act like your parent that isn't in the home with you. It's such a balancing act for children/young adults, because you feel like you are being disloyal to your parent if you love the step parent.
But, the good news is, if this step parent loves your parent, they can't be all bad. What they want is for you to accept them, even though you had no say so in this divorce/remarriage. Talk about a helpless feeling. They call this blended families, but have you ever seen what a blender does to things?!?!?? I wish you well, just be your lovable self.
2006-06-13 11:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by dixie_til_i_die 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They'll probably never feel like your parents, but they can certainly be friends and allies in your life. Be respectful, just the same as you'd be with your mom or dad. Follow rules, ask for advise when you need it. Show your kindness and appreciation by remembering birthdays and other special occasions. Also, don't take them for granted. If your stepmom does your laundry or makes a great meal, say thanks. If your stepdad takes you all out to dinner, say thanks.
2006-06-13 11:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time! And don't try to force something that's not there... I tried to get to know my stepdad for my mom's sake and he turned out to be a real jerk and kicked me out, turned my mom against me too... But my dad's new wife was cool and it took a bit of time to get to know her and trust her. She never forced it and it ended up being a pretty cool relationship.
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2006-06-13 11:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a while to get close to step-parents. Try to spend time with them. Ask them about their likes and dislikes. Find things you have in common and do activities you both enjoy.
2006-06-13 10:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by compendious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Try Your Hardest That's All You Can Do
2006-06-13 11:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by buzurkcats 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to them and start to build a relationship with them. Treat them like your family and don't be shy around them. They need to get to know you as much as you need to get to know them.
2006-06-13 10:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to stop and think, those are people who loves ur mom and dad, and they love them, and they arent the reason ur parents divorced, they care about each other
2006-06-13 10:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It requires spending time with them and finding common interests/hobbies to do together ---- being respectful to them
2006-06-13 10:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, try to be friendly and include them whenever possible, maybe ask for their advice on something.
2006-06-13 10:59:13 · answer #9 · answered by teelynn35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will tell.
2006-06-13 10:57:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋