I have had long relationships and such but they have all ended. I just want to get married and be happy :( I meeeean I am only 20 but still.
2006-06-13 10:46:55 · 18 answers · asked by star143snow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when you stop worrying about it
they will be all over you.
2006-06-13 10:48:58 · answer #1 · answered by Hippie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself...you're only 20. Geez...slow down! I'm about to turn 30 and I haven't turned into an old maid yet and I look better than most girls in their early 20's. Just chill. You sound like you're in love with the idea of marriage. You learn so much in your 20's and you meet so many people. Do things for yourself like spending time with friends and getting involved in activities you enjoy and you'll make even more friends and meet all kinds of people. The more people you meet out there in the world, the more likely you will find someone you will actually want to spend the rest of your life with. Trust me...I lived with a big fat jerk for 5 years of my life before I realized it was a lost cause. I moved on and despite being afraid of being alone at 28 (when I had always thought I'd be married and have children by that age) I went on to another relationship that was better but didn't work out. When I tried doing things to make myself happy and just enjoy my life the best I could, I met the most amazing man and we've been together for a little over a year and a half. Life is an exciting journey and part of it is not knowing what's around the bend. Relax and have fun with it and when you least expect it, you'll find a man who will love you as much as you love him and you'll be glad you took your time for him.
2006-06-13 18:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has someone somewhere waiting in the wings. Some of us even more than one... I have been married 3 times !!!! After the second disaster I did not want any relationships anymore....I was sick and afraid of them, honest... BUT after 8 months... hmmmm I started to miss female love and company... we just cannot live without you girls, can we !!!??? ... So, when I least expected, I met this stunning oriental girl... my jaw dropped... and after a 2-hour chat.... I was hooked we were hooked since then... a year later got married and I now have the most adorable, most fantastic, most beautiful 8 year old boy I could have ever hope to have (had 3 girls only up to then)... example, being half white European and half oriental, he has natural spiky hair but light brown... slightly almond oriental eyes but coloured very light brown... he is intelligent and he is EVERYTHING... so don't worry... you will not escape. Marriage is more of a natural or Nature's trap than anything else... and as Woody Allen more or less said, as far as traps go it's one of the best... One day soon you will come across a guy whose jaws will drop when he meets you. You just won't escape, you will see...
2006-06-13 18:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are trying to hard and wanting it too badly. Marriage just for the sake of being marriage isn't good. You are only 20 years old. What are your hopes, dreams and aspirations? Follow your dreams for yourself and in the process the right person will come along.
I have this theory that we don't meet the person we are going to marry until we are ready, but ALSO until HE / SHE is ready. So it may be that you are ready but the guy you are supposed to marry still is out there somewhere with some growing and maturing to do. When it's the right time, for both of you, you will meet and the relationship will be right.
2006-06-13 18:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 21 years old. Not married either.
Just can't find Mr. Good anymore.
A fast thing is quick to satisfy but for a little while. It's the slow process that builds up strength to last a lifetime. Strong foundations rule.
2006-06-13 17:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm only 26 and have been divorced for almost 2 years from my ex husband of 7 years. Don't get in too big a rush to get married... you need to be single and learn about yourself first to have a successful marriage. Even though you think you know who you are, if you are anything like me you will change and grow very much in the next few years. WAIT!
2006-06-13 17:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by LIL NIX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People feel unhappy when they are not married, then they are unhappy when they are married, then they get a divorce and many say only then they feel truly happy. Go figure. I married early and I do regret. Seek love, not marriage.
2006-06-13 22:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by luckyawara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear "only" 20
You haven't got a dam thing to worry about.....Turn your interests inward toward "Only 20" and stop sweating about the "M" thing......its going to happen.....Yea...I know my advice sounds like the Mom and Dad thing.......I have found that when your not thinking about the big "M".....then someone appears out of thin air.....
2006-06-13 17:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by Spikie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got plenty of time honey. I'm 33 and been through the same crud! Now a days it takes longer to find the "right" person. Don't settle!
2006-06-13 17:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by amylr620 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it clear what you're going for at the beginning of the relationship. If he thinks he's in it for fun, then it'll be fun. If he knows you're looking for something serious, then you'll get fewer offers, but they'll be from men who are looking for something serious. Also, men who are looking for something serious sometimes won't date a girl who seems to be looking for just fun.
2006-06-13 17:53:33 · answer #10 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you want to get married? It's not that great. Enjoy being single.
2006-06-13 17:54:48 · answer #11 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋