Firstly he's been going out with a polish lady cause we are both africans. secondly hes going out with my friend before that he receives call from his ex at 12:00 midnight.Now i'm really fed up cause i know i can cheat too.
2006-06-13 10:44:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The issue facing you is NOT whether you should cheat, and to some extent the fact that he is cheating. Typically communication in the relationship is lacking or non-existant. Secondarily there is a lack of mutual respect and trust between you. A lot of times, the partner who 'cheats' is looking for satisfying aspects of a relationship outside of what that person has with you, becuase of your own self-consciousness, lack of self-esteem and personal insecurities. These are not attacks against you, simple observations to help you deal with the core issues here---which are below the 'visible' issues you've raised. This painful topic you are facing is a reaction to the other problems in the relationship.
Hopefully you can sit back, reassess yourself, and see honestly and objecitvely where your real personal issues lie. Bringing them out on the table with your partner is a very good first step at resolving everything between you, if that is every going to be possible.
Consider it this way, if you look at 'fixing' his problems he will be resentful and attack you back. However, if you earnestly and honestly lay 'your' issues out on the table, and genuinely seek his love, help, support and assistance in fixing them....... He just might.
Now, here is my opinion..... "IF" he is decent, he'll see your complete efforts at fixing yourself first before attacking him, and work with you, and things will proceed in a cooperative, positive and nurturing manner. "IF" not, then THERE is where you have your clue as to the potential for salvaging the relationship.
Work agressively on your own issues first, is my own recommendation........ THEN cast stones, if theres any strength left to do so.
Good luck and I wish you well!
PS If you wish to discuss privately, my name is the same for my email here on yahell. :) Again, my best to you!
2006-06-13 11:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by megettingbetter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello my wife, I'm your husband.
To begin with, I AM NOT CHEATING!
Secondly, DO you really think you are going to get a professional answer from Yahoo? If yes, which one out of these 25 answers do you think is professional? You'll obviously choose an answer that supports the motive you already have inside yourself.
Lastly, I love you very much, but if you think cheating is your best solution, just go ahead and do it my wife, lmao.
2006-06-18 17:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by Diezel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, getting revenge by cheating on him will not take your hurt away. the age difference might be causing a problem. he might want to see older women closer to his age. and since you married him when you were 21 you might have missed out on some things that you wanted to do before you got married. i would talk to him about it and ask him to stop accepting his ex's calls maybe even change his number and not give it to her. as far as your friend goes, tell her how you feel and ask her to stop seeing him. if she won't, then she's not your friend. and as for the polish woman, demand that he stop seeing her right now. or you will file for divorce under adultery, but if you do that definitely don't cheat till the divorce is final.
2006-06-13 17:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by aj607 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, if your husband is cheating on you then what are you doing with him? Remember 2 wrongs don't make a right! Speak to your husband about all this and either walk out or suffer for yourself!
2006-06-19 10:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, why stoop to his level? All that's going to do is lower your self esteem in the long run. Never let a man change who you are. If someone is not treating you right, do it moving. Keep everything respectful and when it's all over Celebrate! Find a man that going to give you the respect you know you deserve......Keep your head up! Remember, "If you stand for nothing, you fall for anything."!
2006-06-13 17:54:51 · answer #5 · answered by why ask why 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best move would be to leave him. Race does not matter in a case like this, he's just going to continue to use you and cheat on the side.
2006-06-13 17:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you two disrespect each other and your marriage --- divorce if you have no interest in being faithful and working out the issues that are harming the marriage
2006-06-13 17:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can cheat, dear. But, you don't want to lower yourself to his level. You know in your heart that two wrongs don't make a right.
I don't know you, but you will probably feel guilty if you do cheat. Plus it will make you angry, not with him, but with yourself.
Kick him to the curb.
Cheaters are in every race, you know that you aren't one.
2006-06-13 17:55:32 · answer #8 · answered by dixie_til_i_die 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can, but do you really want to? If he has such little respect for you and your marriage vows then maybe it's time to move on. Eventually he will give you a sexually transmitted disease and let's just hope it's not HIV.
2006-06-13 17:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by sparkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating on him should be the last of your worries. Getting away from the cheater should take top priority.
2006-06-13 17:48:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋