2006-06-13 10:06:38 · 31 answers · asked by TryHard 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Force new interests. Go offline. . .unplug the computer and take a wire for a few days. Strictly limit computer time. It'll be torture at first, but it pays off. Been there.
2006-06-13 10:08:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-06-13 10:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use the games as a reward. like "if you get an A on this test you can play for 1 hour" or an incentive to do chores. have your child earn the time on line, give them definite time limits and don't back down. set a timer and that's it. maybe if they have to earn the games they will not be so attractive - & be prepared for a big fit when you tell them - don't yell - just say this is the way it is going to be - put a list of rules up somewhere where everyone can see it and stick to your guns - don't let your kids intimidate you but also don't yell and say bad stuff to them
2006-06-13 10:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by AnaMay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest NOT suddenly cutting them off.
Start setting time limits with extension in time limits allowed through specified actions.
Such as school nights 1 hr a night
non-school days, 2-3 hours, with 15-20min able to be earned by doing chores, or based on how much time spent doing something active.
It's ok to let them play online games, but it's best to sit down and discuss with them how other activites can be incorporated into their daily life.
2006-06-13 10:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by ez_cheesey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop this right now. Limit the computer time to only the weekends or put a time limit on the use of it. 30 minutes a day or an hour a day.
If your teen can't abide by the rules. you might need to take the computer away all together.
Good luck.
2006-06-13 10:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by Tired-Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do is to free yourself from the negative associations placed on video games by a closed minded society.
Then encourage him to pursue a career in that field and start finding him literature on the subject.
When he is sure you are supportive of him instead of against him you will be in a better position to suggest and recommend physical activities as well.
2006-06-13 10:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by DannyK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the child involved in table top gaming. Mage Knight or Dungeons and Dragons. It's something you can be involved in too. It'll make for a great time. Just apply yourself to spend more time with them.
2006-06-13 10:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take away their computer so they will not be able to access these games at home. They will need to learn how to keep themselves busy anther way like being more social for example, or playing sports....
2006-06-13 15:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by La La 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I'm confused. Are you his parent? Because I think a parent would know to take the damn computer away and make sure they are not going to a friends house to play. I wish I had kids.
2006-06-13 12:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by beastiebeastiebitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least he/she isn't outside tormenting animals or people. Going around the neighborhood being a banshee and breaking windows, etc.
Ya know, I read surgeons play video games to improve hand-eye coordination. *wink*
2006-06-13 10:13:47 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Jen ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋