Several months ago my husband and i were going through a bad time and we were on the verge of seperation. I was having a hard time dealing with everything and I ran to a guy friend for support. We ended up spending the night together and had sex. A few days later my husband was with me and we had sex. I found out I was pregnant a few weeks later and it could be from either guy. I'm nervous and scared because I don't know what to do and I am now back with my husband and trying to make things workout between us. He knows about the incident with the other guy and knows that there is a possibility that it could be his. This makes me sound like a horrible person but it was a one-time mistake and now I'm trying to figure everything out. Is there a way to know who the father is before the baby is born or at least who has the better chances of being the father.........the guy I was with first or my husband who I was with a few days later?
2006-06-13 10:04:53 · 13 answers · asked by Confused & Worried 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Please, don't listen to those other people above. Except for the one person who really sees if for what it is. I'm glad that you did ask this. I'm on a similar side of this same thing right now. Right after I went through a really tough break up back in January, I hooked up with an old friend that had told me she was single and she just told me today that she's pregnant and thinks the baby is mine. And she also told me back in March that she was married and in the process of a divorce. Things just are too complicated to put into this small box but I just wanted to say you're not alone at all and didn't want you to think that you did anything too horribly wrong, and sadly, it happens. I wish I could answer this question you asked but actually me and this girl are trying to find the same answer to the same question, she says the baby is mine but after everything she and I have been through in the last 5 months I really don't believe her anymore so I don't really know if the baby is mine or her now exhusband's. Thanks for posting the question and best of luck to you all.
2006-06-13 16:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone in this situation, it happens more often than people are willing to admit. Please do not listen to the negative comments that you are bound to get here. The important things have already been done. You've told your husband the truth, and he's willing to try and work it out with you. I don't know of any tests that can be done prenatally. You can have a paternity test done once the baby is born either through your doctor, or there are kits you can by on the internet. Or if you know the other guy's blood type you can figure it out the way I did. My hubby is A positive, and the other guy and I are both O. The baby has an A blood type, plus he's the spitting image of my husband (but you can't really tell at birth).
You also need to consider some other options that you may or may not have thought about yet. If it's not your husband's is he willing to raise the child as his own, or will this be a point of contention in your lives from now on? Do you still have any contact with the other man? You will need a medical history from him if the baby is his for future reference. Do you want him to know he has a child? Will he want to be part of it's life? Will that be okay with your husband? Is he going to give you child support? Whose name will you put on the birth certificate? I'm sure your head is spinning, so please feel free to email me if you'd like to talk about it personally.
2006-06-13 10:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
properly this project is loopy, scary, and unhappy. i imagine that although her husband died and they did not recommend to get envolve, does no longer provide then a way out of what they did. They knew what they were doing nd did not care about you and ur little ones this truth could allow you to understand that he does love this woman. If the clarification he stayed with you is that he needs to workout undemanding your marriage with the aid of youngsters and trully no longer for the straightforward undeniable truth that he trully loves then you definitely staying to gether isn't worth it. You look to have a competent heart and being on your own will be scary in the beginning yet i understand that you're going to locate authentic love and happiness in the longer time period. No i does no longer stay, he could be gratefull for having a competent woman. i'd go away and commence a sparkling existence with my little ones understanding that everyhing will be alrit in the right. i in my opinion ought to no longer stay with a guy that has betrayed his relations, and that i ought to always remember and that on my own would make, lovemakeing and a person-friendly courting toooo not straight forward and hurtful for me and my little ones.
2016-10-14 03:25:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could get an amnio-centisis (SP) donee, they extract DNA, and you could have the test done after four months. But this proceedure is VERY risky, and can sometimes cause your body to abort the baby. I mean it is like a two foot long needle the stick through your stomach, my best advice to you is to wait and watch.
2006-06-13 10:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by cookies_n_cream0218 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, calm down about it. Don't add more stress to your pregnancy, what's done is done. There is a certain time you can have an amnio (I think) and with that, they can test the DNA. Ask your Dr. at your appointment, he is there to help. Good luck.
2006-06-13 10:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by reneelf2002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no way you can tell until the baby is born. At least your husband knows what happened so it shouldnt be that bad
2006-06-13 10:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by T Burr 22 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You spilled the boiling water now you have to accept the consequence.
If your husband loves you it shouldn't even matter. However, you both should be checked for STDs.
If it isn't your husbands baby what will you do. Hopefully you won't kill it.
2006-06-13 10:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by bartii 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Try going on Maury
2006-06-13 10:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by aliengirl72008 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to have a DNA test. They'll test your husband, and if he isn't the father, the other guy is.
2006-06-13 10:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
since your husband knows, have him do a paternity test.
then again, if you're trying to make things work, maybe he'd rather assume it's his.
2006-06-13 10:12:09 · answer #10 · answered by webjnke1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋