my 14 year old gf is mad at me and is thinkin o f breaking up cuz she wants me to get her pregnant now wat?

Question

im 16 and my gf is 14 she wants a baby so bad and i explained everything that changes our lives if we had a baby she said she wouldnt care wat happens i tried my beast explainin now our relationships on the line wat in world am i gonna do im gonna die

Answer 1

I think she should get real. She's 14, and if she has a baby or gets pregnat it'll screw her youth.

Answer 2

You will die.

If you have a baby at 16 - you will loose your mind.

At 28 this is hard enough! We have a marriage, a house, two luxury cars, nice suburban neighborhood, savings, good jobs...and guess what - it doesn't mean sh*t.

A baby defies all logic. Having a screaming baby crying around the clock (at least 2 hours at first) is irksome when you are running on zero sleep. And, money is tight all the time. No more world travels...or cruises...but at least at one point we had that opportunity. Then, not only will you not have the nice things and experiences, but also the education that gets you those nice things (and will save your a$$ in a divorce).

I challenge you to check out the clock wherever you are throughout the day. Notice when two hours/three hours goes by. Notice how quickly the time goes by...imagine only having that much time to yourself. Imagine that much time slotted for you (really isn't for you anyway cuz you'll be doing stuff in the time for the baby like housework) for the REST of the child's life.

If I were you I'd run. If not cuz I was scared about the baby...but because I would think my gf just wanted me for my sperm. Sounds like she wants a baby - and doesn't really care if its you or not...not a way to start a family...

Answer 3

Ok, if she is that hung up on this, you should let her go and do what is in her will without trapping you into future child support. You are young and still have to withgo a change bolth in personality and taste in people. Therefor, I can honestly say you might not be together in the future with or without a baby. When a couple has a baby, the focus is no longer the relationship, the focus is solely on the baby and arguements arise on how to raise the baby. When a girl is that young, she also keeps the baby from the father in an immature to get back at him for every little thing. This is called parental alienation syndrome. Look it up. Please, keep the monster wrapped, and NEVER again trust her that she is taking "birth controll pills". Oh yeah, make sure she didnt put any pin pricks in your condoms while theyre still in the wrapper.

Answer 4

She's Only 14 Come On Its Too Early To Have A Baby..Get New G/f Or Explain For Her That She's A Baby!

Answer 5

Having a baby WILL change everything. If she is threatening to break up with you because you won't have a baby, maybe you should sit back and really analyze why she want to have a baby so bad. 14 is too young to be a mother. being a parent is a lot of constant attention, and when you are as young as both of you, concentrating on high school and good grades should be your first priority.
Broken hearts happen everyday, and if you do break up the time will come that you will realize that it is for the best. She sounds very immature to me.

Answer 6

You think you're gonna die now--you just wait until your girlfriend comes up pregnant and wants to keep the baby and make you responsible for it! Where do you think your lives are going to be in another five years if you have a baby now? Enjoy life now with no attachments or responsibilities--a child changes your life forever. There is no going back! She may think a baby is like a doll, but they aren't. They are a big responsibility. Don't blow it!

Answer 7

I think you should put a little bit of a reality check in front of your girlfriend's eyes. For example: go up to her and tell her that you need $20 for diapers, you need another $20 for formula, you need $150 for a crib, you need $200 for baby clothes, blankets, bottles, wipes, bibs, pacifiers. You will need another $100 for a stroller and another $60 for a car seat. You also will not be able to take her to the movies or out to eat because she will need to stay home to take care of the baby. Tell he she must set her alarm to go off ever 2-3 hours, every night because that's when the baby will need to eat. Or tell her she needs to play a CD of a baby crying all night long. Tell her that she will be responsible for taking the child to doctor's appointments, and because she will have to continuously pay for things like formula, wipes, diapers she will need to get a job, so therefore she will need to pay for daycare while she is working. She of course will have to work, go to school and take care of the child all at the same time. If she isn't able to fork over all the money needed for a child, if she isn't able to wake up a zillion times a night that it takes to feed a child, if she isn't able to handle the continuous cries of a child, if she isn't able to go to school work and take care of a child then she has no business having one. See if she can handle a doll for a while. I don't mean setting it down when you want to go somewhere but treating it like it is a real baby. She'll get tired of it really fast...........And you know why she will tire cause she is a child herself..............Don't by any circumstance have sex with her...you have so much life a head of you........so many other girls who will come and go...........and one day a special one will stay.........it's not her.

Answer 8

I'm 25 and I'm telling you she does not know what she is talking about. she only thinks that's what she wants. Truly something in her personal life is lacking and it is possibly in her family and she is looking to fill it with a child. At your age neither one of you put together could afford to take care of it so here is what you need to do. As much as it will hurt. you need tell her, that if she wants to be that selfish as to ruin your life just to bring herself personal gratification than she is not ready for that type of commitment to you or the child. Your 16 you will meet and go out with many girls so don't sweat it "HELLO COLLEGE"!!!!. Think about it if she has that kid and then realizes its a mistake your stuck. Try to talk to her about your true feelings about it. if she still rejects you then break it off with her. oh and by the way talk to an adult you can trust if this is not an option for you. I married and plan to have kids soon but i had to really set my money aside.
good luck

Answer 9

Sweetie you and your gf is to young to be even thinking about having children at your age.... If that is what she wants to do then let her move on, for the simple fact is that you dont' agree with this... That is why you are asking this question... You will have to deal with this girl the rest of your life if you have a child to her and it doesn't work out bewteen you two.... You haven't even lived life yet and the fun you both can have... If she is lookin for a reason to get out of her home, that is not the reason to have a child..... You have to think of yourself first, because you will learn that you only have yourself to look out for in the long run, ppl are not what you want them to be in life.... You make life what you want it to be, and with a child that you are not ready for isn't the answer right now.. a child comes on later in life when you are ready to take care of a child and don't have to depend on your familys to keep you or the state.......... She is just treating you now, but she will come back in the long run, and watch her reactions with this you know in your heart that this isn't the time for a child in your life and she should also respect your desion on this subjuect.... She is 14yrs old and not fully grown herself there could be birth defects because of her young age and there could be problems with your child that would need extra care that you won't be able to afford, then what......Hard working tax payers dont' like keeping ppl cause of mistakes when you know in your heart is wrong..........I wish you the best and you know the answer yourself, if she wants to break up with you over this then she isn't the one that you need to be with ya know.......... take care and bless.....................

Answer 10

Run.... fast. Any 14 yr old who wants a baby should not be touched with a 10-foot pole (or a penis)! Wrap it in plastic or you will be paying child support for the next 18-24 years.

Answer 11

A baby should not enter into the equation until 2 responsible people are ready and able to support care and love the child....Wanting a baby for selfish reasons shows great immaturity ...Are you feeling mature and financially responsible?