2006-06-13 09:25:25 · 14 answers · asked by ANGELA MAE W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's really going to be tough that they will not understand what you have gone (and still go) through. You will find yourself wanting them to relate but they just can't.
The farther in your past it is, the less it will affect the relationship IMHO but it definitely will affect the relationship. Hope they can understand.
2006-06-13 09:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by scruffy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like I can answer this one very well. When I met my husband he had been sober for about 3 months. I had not (and still have not) ever used or abused any sort of substance or drink. He told me up front and I was just as up front with him. I would never truly understand what he has gone through but I am willing and able to stand by his side and hold his hand and help him stand strong. That's what true commitment is all about. Trust and honesty.We have now been married over 5 years and he has not had a drink the whole time.
2006-06-13 09:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by helpful_one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how long you've been clean i would guess. for a while you probably shouldn't put yourself in an emotionally charged situation, and before you do you need to make sure that you are emotionally strong enough to stay clean even if it doesn't go well. i would guess that you'd have to tell the person you are getting involved with because it is part of your past and is in large part responsible for who you are now and who you are still becoming, i wouldn't make it the first thing you say but i wouldn't wait too long either. by the way, congratulations to you for doing it! keep up the great work! many people never find the strength to get where you are, be proud of yourself and forgive yourself for the past, just work on making the future better. good luck to you!
2006-06-13 09:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Upfront and honest, if you think there might be something there. I do not think it is necessary to mention it one the first date but if there is another, it would probably be a good idea. I would explain how wonderful feels to be clean and actually being with someone you care about and makes you happy. The rest of the conversation may depend upon how she/he reacts. No matter how he/she does react always remember that no matter how you feel about them they may not feel the same way and so you go on..........
2006-06-13 09:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by waterlady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest about your past from the start. It may be painful, but it is always easier to be honest at the beginning about these things. I've had addiction problems too, and I would hate to lose someone I cared about by hiding it.
2006-06-13 09:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by bearaquila 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to be the first thing you bring up in conversation...sooner or later the right moment will present itself and this addiction should be brought up because recovery is a day to day success...and in a relationship your partner should be part of that process.
2006-06-13 09:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all WAY TO GO!!! All the Luck in the world to you so you can stay away from what ever drug you were using (to stay away from any addiction!)!!!!
To give you an answer to your question: Just be honest about it! Be honest about it, otherwise your denying yourself!!!
Again, be proud of yourself and it all will work out for you!!!
2006-06-13 09:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by Barista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure. Show the person that you are no addicted to the Internet and you no longer have the time nor the energy to use anything else again.
2006-06-13 09:29:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest about what is going on with you.....if that person truly cares for you they will support you through your recovery....good luck! Your life is worth so much more then drugs....please stay away from them and have a good life.
2006-06-13 09:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by *~*hunnie*bunnie*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest first and foremost.
If this person can handle your honesty, then everything else should fall into place
2006-06-13 09:28:47 · answer #10 · answered by Whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋