2006-06-13 09:21:10 · 18 answers · asked by banany 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The only aspect that seems to be lacking is your desire that he treat you as a lover, rather than a buddy. Unfortunately, one of the few things we cannot control or even generally affect in life, is the behavior and action of others. Try to appreciate his affection for you, his esteem of you, his trust in you, and cherish that you have found someone who truly cares for you. It is possible, in time, that you or he will change the way that you feel for one another, and come to be on the same page, but enjoy the love you have as it is for now.
2006-06-21 02:24:23 · answer #1 · answered by mahleezah 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's really your best friend and considers you his as well, just try to talk yourself out of the "in love with" part. He may be a lot better friend than he would be a boyfriend and, if the relationship falls apart, it would be very difficult to go back to being friends (let alone "best friends") I had a similar experience once and am so glad that I didn't press the "in love" issue, because he's STILL my best friend 15 years later and I've long gotten over the "in love" part that could have totally screwed it up.
If somewhere along the way he falls in love with you, too, then of course the answer is totally different.....at that point, go for it !
2006-06-21 21:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by Schleppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, actually, umm.. since he just want you as a best friend, then you can't do much about it or else you would break this friendship which link you two. Just take some retreat and you'll see that in the end it's just a strong friendship you feel for your best friend (I said that because it's happened to me). Sure you wanna hold and kiss him but just take a closer look and think of the real love you feel for me because sometimes you don't make the difference between loveship and friendship: it's just so close... so, be wise and be sure yourself ;)
2006-06-25 07:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by kaze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can drag a horse into the water but you can never force it to drink. if you love a person who can't love you the way you want it to be, thebest thing to be done is to accept it. To love isn't just about being loved back but also to show people how does it feel being loved, Other's may not value it but you are lucky even with the pains cos our heart chooses someone who cant love us in order for us to know both good and bad side of love.
2006-06-25 06:33:55 · answer #4 · answered by janlee_dan@yahoo.co.uk << 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's painful if he just wants to stay friends, but you should have respect for his wishes, especially if you're close friends. But be glad you have such a great best friend! You do have to move on, but don't just settle for someone else to distract you and take the pain away. Look for someone who listens to you and cares about you as much as he does, just in that "more than friends" way. There are others and it will work. Whatever you do, don't continue to pine after your friend in silence. It will only hurt you more later.
2006-06-13 16:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by kaya_riddle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having been in that position in reverse, ie in love with my best friend who was female, she only thought of me as her big brother. It hurts, even when you tell them, and they realize it. they don't ( at least in my case) love you the same way. by the time she figured out that maybe she should have taken a chance on me, it was more than 10 years later, she had been divorced with a kid, and I had been married for several years. I still care for her, but my heart finally belongs to someone else. But it did take a long time for me to get over her.
2006-06-27 11:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by jmndad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Except the fact that he loves you as a Friend and not in a romantic way and concentrate on finding someone who will or can love you in that special way
2006-06-13 16:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by delmonticoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cherish that relationship and keep your physical feelings under wraps. A great friendship often has more staying power than many relationships; would you rather have a relationship for a few months or a true friend for years ??
2006-06-25 17:56:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him in no uncertain terms how you feel and wait for his reply. If he says that he doesn't feel about you that way, then you just have to move on with your love life.
2006-06-13 16:29:04 · answer #9 · answered by Gayle J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Love One Another.....is that a hard thing to do?
2006-06-13 16:43:15 · answer #10 · answered by pan_n_pandora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋