2006-06-13 09:16:44 · 50 answers · asked by mrme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Even Jesus was tempted. Its not the temptation that is wrong, it's the action that gets you in trouble.
2006-06-13 09:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by Creole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is considered normal to be sexually attracted to other people while in a long term relationship, but I don't think that it's OK, because it tends to undermine the long term relationship, and can cause problems. I wouldn't just accept it, because eventually, it will wear on you, and you may give in. I would say that it's not OK, so that each time it happens, you realize that it's not OK, and make some kind of effort to correct it.
Sometimes, you may see someone, and you talk, and there's a connection, and it turns out to be a sexual connection, and a two way attraction. Yet, before this happens, there are things that happen ... you wonder if the other person feels the same way, and somehow, someway, you make a comment, or a gesture to find out if what you think is true. Perhaps not making this gesture can help to avoid knowing that the person is attracted to you. Similarly, having a friendly disposition that isn't open to sexual comments might limit this as well. It isn't easy, but I think you might be amazed at how easily a comment, gesture, look, etc adds to sexual tension, and opens the door for other options.
But to answer your question, it's not OK. It happens, it's "normal", but it's not just OK.
2006-06-13 09:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by Earl G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's ok as long as you don't act upon it. It is human nature to be attracted to other people, it is how you handle it that matters. Are you in an open relationship where you and your mate agree that you can see other people? If not then leave it as it is, an attraction. If it is a strong attraction then maybe you should look at your relationship and figure out if that is really what you want, maybe your not ready to be as commited as you thought you were.
2006-06-13 09:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by earnhardtjr_1girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a saying when it comes to this. Looking is ok as long as you don't touch. everyone looks even when they are in a long term committed relationship. it is just human nature. It is the act of doing something about your attraction that caused problems.
2006-06-13 09:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by cascade_waterfall04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having feelings of sexual attraction is not the problem. Acting on these feelings is asking for a train wreck!!!!! There are a lot of things in this world that will attract you but you have to use wisdom, morals, and good judgement on which ones you will act upon and which ones you will refuse to get involved in.
2006-06-13 09:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is okay every now and then to fantasize, however; when you linger on those thoughts; you go over into lust and this may become a problem in the long run. After awhile, you may start comparing your partner to your fantasy of being sexually attracted to this person and then become dissatisfied in your current relationship. I think you should ask yourself, "What about this person makes you sexually attracted to him or her", and what about your partner makes you sexually attracted. In addition to this, you should transfer those thoughts or feelings of desire towards your own partner and relationship.
2006-06-13 09:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely OK and unavoidable. Just make sure you don't act on any of these attractions. It might be a good idea to keep it to yourself as to who you think is sexually attractive though. Telling your partner things like that could hurt his/her feelings.
2006-06-13 09:19:08 · answer #7 · answered by melspags6 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are not, by nature, monogamous. You can talk 'til the cows come home on how we developed so many rules against promiscuity, but the fact doesn't change that our bodies ask us to interact sexually with more than one other person in our lives. Most animals are, by nature, poly-sexual. This helps species to survive and continue.
2006-06-13 09:22:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only natural to be attracted to other people that appeal to you. It is a problem when you act on that attraction. Then it isn't okay and should rethink your current relationship.
2006-06-13 09:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal to be attracted to others while you are in a relationship...it's the acting on that attraction that is not normal.
2006-06-13 09:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing is being attracted to someone another is being sexually attracted to someone. Even if you don't go through with it....If you are able your attraction could get you in trouble and someone could get hurt
2006-06-13 09:19:39 · answer #11 · answered by Mary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋