Why are men afraid of commitment?

Answer 1

Heck, it's a big choice!

Answer 2

Well, I can give you a psychological reason. See, it's all about reproduction. Men can do it more often than women and can have more children quickly. So they go for looks. Women are the opposite and go for how well he'll be able to provide for his family. This explains why old men like young women and why young women marry old (rich) men. Fortunately, we're advanced enough so that it's not as big an issue, but it does have an influence. Also, it varies from guy to guy for many different reasons. I, personally, am incredibly committed to and protective of the ladies in my life. (Which has backfired on me.)

Answer 3

All men are not afraid of commitment. Just the immature ones that are still looking for the one night stands. Men that are ready for or find the right woman will make a commitment and stick with it. I have been with the same woman for 20+ years (I am 40) and know many other guys that are not commitmentphobics.

Answer 4

Speaking as a man, I can tell you, we are not afraid of commitment. It's women that are afraid to lose that man and/or NEED to be married that love to ask that question

What women have to understand is that there is a time and place for everything. While dating a woman, she will tell you that she will gladly marry you although you are working as a grocery bagger catching the bus to work, until you get married and the bills are due.

Another thing, women want to get married on THEIR schedule. Not when he's ready to. Women nowadays believe that as soon as you go out on your first date, you go two years to sweep them off their feet, find the ring, stay out of they way and just do what they tell you to do when she is planning the wedding, and marry them. I'm not going to say this is the cause of high divorce rates, but I wouldn't be too surprised if it wasn't.

If women would let the relationship flow it's natural course, they will find out that the man that wants to marry them, will do so.

Answer 5

Depends on the age group, with the older man 30 and up it is more then likely that he has really been burned in a divorce or breakup and does not want to take the slightest chance of that happening again. Since my divorce I have had two women highly suggest to me that we get married. I hear those words and I start backing up, can’t really help it. Younger then 30 they probably came from a family that had a bad divorce take place.

Answer 6

i don't think it's so much the commitment as it is a few other things.

Fear of failure is a big one. Also the fear of the unknown, the fear of giving everything to a woman who will probably break us in half, the fear of divorce.

There's really lots of them, each one of us is different. Me, I would rather die a penniless hermit, living in the woods like the uni-bomber, than go through a divorce again.

Answer 7

It comes in three reasons, which correspond to the three persons you learn in basic grammar: I, you, them.

I: Am I good enough for you? Will I be able to be true? I'd rather be honest, and say I'm still attracted to other people than lie and say I can be true when I can't. What if I don't measure up? What if I'm not ready? What about all those things I wanted to do that involved being single? Are those plans up in smoke now?

You: Are you going to betray my trust? I'm going out on a limb, giving up something good (my freedom) for you, and so often girls just throw that away like it's nothing. What if you decide you're not "in the mood" for weeks or months on end? Do you really expect me to just become celibate for streches because you're not "in the mood" sometimes?

Them: Of course you're the most beutiful woman in the world... but... oh... look at that girl in that really short skirt... look at that one over there, in the really low cut top... look at that one looking back at me like I'm a piece of meet... I flash my ring at her so she knows I'm married... now she's looking at me like I'm a full course meal... now she's asking me to dance... umm.... what was that response I was supposed to give again... I'll think of it after a dance... sure, I'll drive you home, you're too drunk to drive I can see... upstairs, sure, it's just coffee, after all... just to make sure you don't pass out in the elevator... "Hi, Honey... yeah, sorry I didn't get home... I crashed at a friend's house last night..."

Answer 8

they dont want to commit to you and why are women afraid to commit?

Answer 9

commitment and monogamous marriage is contrary to man's biological nature

Answer 10

they feel as if women will bring them down when its not true we serve as their helper they couldnt breathe nor eat if women didnt exist. it would be a world of anorexia gay horny men if we werent here!!!!! believe dat!! o.k.