shes married in florida her husband is in virginia and never visits, they havent seen eachother face to face for over a year and she is fed up with him, its obvious that hes cheating on her. ive had a crush on her for almost 2 years now. im her friend but i have never told her how i really feel about her, but i dont know if its my place or the right time...its not that i dont have the guts, its just i dont want to ruin the friendship
2006-06-13 08:51:40 · 20 answers · asked by derickscott20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't tell her, you respect her enough to keep that to yourself until she decides to move on from her husband - divorce him.
2006-06-13 08:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As her "friend" (clearly your intentions are to be more than that) you should stay nothing more than friends. Because let me tell ya, at this point, you are her BROTHER! You will be nothing more and if you tell her that, you WILL be less. If she does just happen to come your way, it will be to make him jealous.
At this point, you can tell her after she divorces and officially ends all contact, try other people, then come to you. I hate to tell you this, but you are a "friend" of convenience. If her husband was around you would be out of the picture.
Honestly, when a woman sees you as nothing more than a friend, it just means that you are a guy who she can go to that she doesn't have to "give it up" for. Especially, after 2 years. That ship has been left the harbor. At this point, all her husband has to do is either come back or send for her and all will be forgiven.
2006-06-13 16:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by King H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a fine line to such a predicament, your hearing one side of a story, I am sure there is a reason they don't even live in the same state but if it was because they don't care for each other one would think they would have divorced by now...there appears to have been alot of sacrifice and devotion on her part to remain in such a situation...she obviously still has some sort of connection with her husband....unfortunately she doesn't see turning to another man for healthier support is necessary, so don't encourage her to make a decision she hasn't made on her own..continue to be a friend and if she should become available, make your move as soon as you wish to...good luck to both of you..
2006-06-13 16:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
crush is quite different that having a feeling for her. First of all, make sure your feeling for her is true and enough to be there whatever happens. There is some instances that you might feel pity for her because of the situation.
my advice; Just dont tell her. Give her support or make her forget the loneliness. Just be there. If you really for each other . Time will come.
2006-06-13 16:02:39 · answer #4 · answered by dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her relationship is that bad why isn't she divorced? You should really wait until she's divorced to make your move. As long as she's legally married she isn't really "free" to have a healthy productive relationship with anyone.
You can try talking to her and dropping hints or you can just tell her how you feel which is probably your best bet. You should let her know that if the two of start dating that you aren't going to get into a full on relationship with her until she divorces.
2006-06-13 15:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No guts, no glory...Take her out for a nice dinner and evening on the town. Then at the end of the night tell her how much you enjoy spending time with her and you wish that she and her husband would get a divorce so you could ask her out on a real date.
2006-06-13 15:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Whether she's in a terrible marriage or a great one, expressing any feelings beyond friendship is a bad idea. Not until she really gets a belly full and gets a divorce. Just my opinion, based on what I've observed and experienced.
2006-06-13 15:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by Rich 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it how it is. It's not your place 2 mess wit a married woman, dudes take that **** seriously. I would never mess wit a married woman u gotta know tha game man. he might be cheating on her but if he's still married to her he has some type of feelins for her and if u mess that up he might try 2 get u. and he aint gon' get in any trouble because his wife commited adultery not him.
2006-06-13 16:01:07 · answer #8 · answered by Kenny L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I wouldn't tell her until she makes the marriage come to an end. You don't want to be the cause for the "final" breakage. If it is going to end by what you say, let it end on her own time and will. Just be there for her for now and then tell her when everything is over with. She will respect that more.
2006-06-13 15:54:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a married woman and she is off limits to you. If your truly care for her then don't push her into adultery while she is enduring a vulnerable stage of her marriage.
Be a gentleman and don't get involved in husband and wife bussiness. Find yourself a single woman that can reprocicate your feelings.
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2006-06-13 16:03:41 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not youre place shes married for better or worse youre thinking with the wrong head shes got issues dont step on toes jeolous husbands are crazy find a single girl and worry about yerself
2006-06-13 16:18:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋