why does it seem that no matter how hard you try you can never get a person (one that you like) to notice you? Why do people ignore you because your not skinney or have big boobs or what not? Why don't brains matter anymore? Why is it hard when you know that this person is smart and funny and everything you look for in a person and they don't even seem to notice you? I am not asking this based on a crush I have or as a little air headed looking for hopeless romance, I am asking this based on how no one can give people credit for their knowledge anymore? Why do guy's seem to date girls because of how they look? It seems to them that it doesnt matter how they are treated by this girl, all that matters is that they are pretty. I know beauty s in the eyes of the beholder but you never see a cute guy with some heavier women who is smart and funny and would put their life on the line for this person because love is the strongest bond between them. When did the world become so blind?
2006-06-13 08:48:52 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
You may see it this way, however if a guy or girl are in a relationship based on superficiality, the relationship wont last. Common sense does prevail eventually.
2006-06-13 08:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by Gone 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The reason why you can't get this person to notice you is just one of the many things you have written about below your main question. I an still in your shoes I'm not too heavy. But form passed experience men look at your body first and then if they like what they see they make their move, those kind of guys don't really want any thing more than a one night stand and then they never call or see you again, if you would pursue this guy I know that he will react in the matter I have just described. I'd be very careful of guys who are way to friendly they re only after one thing and I know that you know this too. Or the man is just not interested in you no matter how hard you try, he will never see you in the way you want him to. Move on there other men out there that would like you very much just keep looking and when you leats expect it that is when you will find your true love.
2006-06-27 05:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by wolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen sister. That is what I have been saying. Everywhere I go I see these little blond morons being adored by guys who only care about getting laid. I don't know why this happens, but lets face it, guys are just plain shallow. The good news is there are a few good guys out there who aren't obsessed with dating a supermodel. I know everyone says that but I have seen it happen. My friend is engaged now, she is really tall and used to be super skinny (she was anorexic). Now she is better, and has put on a little weight, but she is still very pretty. She has been with her boyfriend throughout all of her weight fluctuations and he always tells her she is beautiful. I am also a big woman, so I know what it is like to be ignored when you go to a club or a bar, or only to be thought of as a friend of the girls the guys really want. But hey, I think I will meet someone eventually and I am not going to waste my time worrying what a bunch of jerks think about me. Cuz I know I am a good person and any guy would be lucky to have me. So I am going with the flow and I'm not going to obsess over meeting a guy. Cuz you know the minute you stop looking is when you meet someone. So hold your head up and remember that those empty-headed girls will be wrinkled has-beens in about 20 or so years, depending on how much tanning they do. And we will still have our brains and wit.
2006-06-13 08:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by joygirl46307 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are all self centered and just crazy & immature these days. It would be nice if we could go back in time like some of those old movies and all of them were gentlemen and full of chivalry and prided themselves on good morals. I'm affraid that will never be again. But do not give up!!! There are a few, you just have to know where to look and which ones to avoid. Guys stick labels on girls fat, skinney, not popular, easy, etc. so us girls can have labels for them too. Jerk, man whore, meyth head, wild, etc. we have to start sterotyping them if we don't want to get hurt. It's usually the one you don't notice, the one in the not so popular crowd, maybe just plain. They might be the one that will be very kind and cherish you & and make you happy. Don't go for the ones everybody else if after, you will be in constant doubt and looking over your shoulder to see if someone is checking your man out. I think security and being treated like a real person would be the ultimate happiness..Protect your heart just watch how many girls those popular guys go through. Don't be another notch in his belt.
2006-06-13 08:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don’t think it’s only guys.. girls also date people based on their appearance... but when you think about it... what's the first thing you see when you look at someone? What they look like! You can't look at a person and get an outline of all of their qualities and especially not their range of knowledge. It’s just life. But I must say, if you have to continuously try to make yourself noticed by someone, why would you be interested in this person anyway? There are billions and billions of people in the US alone… why stress out over one person that hasn’t noticed you? Just because they are smart and funny and have everything you look for in a person?? I doubt that, that ONE person is the only one with those qualities. Just keep looking…believe it or not there are a lot of nice sexy people in the world who's main interest isn't only to have a good looking girl/guy on their arm.
2006-06-13 09:13:18 · answer #5 · answered by SiLLy-mE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exacty what your saying and it is so sad that people are like that. Some men are so blind and don't know their left hand from the right. A lot guys are plain stupid when it comes to relationships. They have no clue.
I believe a man should look deeper into a woman, I mean, like their personality should mean something to them, besides the looks.
Its too bad a lot of guys are like that. Love is Blind.
Good Luck and I believe you will find the right man some day. It might take you awhile but he's out there looking for you right now. Stay positive and be proud of yourself.
2006-06-25 03:04:18 · answer #6 · answered by PsychoSam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...it has something to do with looks...you say you would never see a cute guy with an over weight women. but same vise versa...why are you looking for that cute guy,go look for the over weight one that is funny and tells jokes... nobody really understands it's not that the skinny girl gets the worm...it's just a matter of fact that you see over weight people and first thing you think is why don't they do something about it... why don't they take care of themselves. I'ts a health issue.....yes i am skinny ...very skinny...but i was a big girl once and all my family are big girls....it's unhealthy and that's my only reason for thinking about it. i want my mom to be around for a long time. i don't want her to die from something that she could have prevented. and plus if they don't look at you ...they are just not interested.... it would be sad to think that everyone that look at you should want to be with you....maybe that guy likes to be with a girl who doesn't sit and worry herself with problems about other people. and if girls stay with guys no matter how they treat them...guys can do it too. some guys like that bytchy type...or the temptress, or a girl who makes sure she looks good and take care of herself. what ever he likes he's going for it... I am sure if you had a choice you would go for the 6'3' 205lb nice looking guy with muscles than the 5'6"inch 350lb guy that tells jokes and read the t.v.guide. There are plenty of guys that like heavier women and vise versa...if it's that much of a concern...just wear a T-shirt or a sign on your head saying "i am a smart and funny girl... i like walks in the parks, and dancing.
I just see this so much and if you would think about it yourself you would do the same as that guy your talking about,and if you say that only heavier women would put their lives on the line for their men...you are one shallow person....
2006-06-26 02:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked myself that question a millions of times but I realized if a man wants me because of my looks and not how I feel or of my intellegents then I don't need him at all cause you can find a good man out there who loves you more than your looks and who will appreciate your goodness and love you unconditionally, cause there are girls out there who may look cute but are really ugly on the inside, and then the guy will get his feelings hurt and then he will realize that beauty is only skin deep, but it takes guys with knowledge to find that out!
2006-06-13 08:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because looks are important too. If you say that guys should appeal to brains more than looks, then what makes it any different than guys appearing to looks more than brains? Both require favoritism toward the other, and both are important. To imply one should be empasized over the other, gives empasize that the other should also be emphasized over the other as well. However, the truth is that both are important, and one's personal preference is no different than your personal preference.
2006-06-13 09:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by Source 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a glass of water from a dry well!
You cant force anyone to be your own ideal, we are all different, find compatibility and you will find the blinkers of life raised enough to see what goes. Maybe some one thinks the same about you and you have not noticed them?
2006-06-26 15:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by Mosez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a standard, something that makes them happy, turns them on. Some guys I know wont date a woman who is under 250 lbs. Others prefer legs, some pretty faces. Best of luck :)
2006-06-13 08:53:43 · answer #11 · answered by badaz06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋