How as a mother can I teach my son not to be agressive when he sees our world role models at constant war?

Answer 1

As a male, he is by nature aggressive, you cannot and should not try to teach him not to be aggressive. You can, however, teach him control. Let him know he has choices he can make in his behavior. Get him in to sports or some other physical activity that will keep him moving and expending energy. Guys hormones just do that to them. If he is just a toddler, play, rough and tumble (and I do mean tumble, teach him somersaults) helps with balance and coordination and helps in falling skills in older children. When you know the child will fall, they need to know how to do it properly to avoid injury.

It's very hard to teach a child not to hit, this seems to be an ingrained protective response. The child has not learned the differences in pain. Physical pain vs. emotional pain. All they know at this time is They Hurt D-a-r-n it! (typed the regular way it looked like the OTHER word) I did, however let him hit back IF the other child hit him more than once. Turn the other cheek doesn't work well with children, and they need to know they have a right to defend themselves. By allowing one hit and not cringing, his behavior would show the other children that he understood the hitter was upset and his character was big enough to allow that one hit. After that, it was self preservation.

This stood him in good stead. The teachers in seeing this type of behaviour could see he didn't want the fight but was pressured to ingage.

The best you can do is teach him to think, and to think clearly and to see where his actions can lead. When my son was in 2nd grade, he was suspended for throwing acorns. After speaking with the Principal, my son and I sat down on a bench outside under the Principal's office window and discussed the punishment. It was during recess and I pointed out the acorn war going on to the oblivion of the teachers. I explained why he was being punished. The Principal overheard, came out and reduced the punishment to just the rest of the day.

On the way home in the car I gave him my true thoughts on the situation. By seeing the example on the playground, and what resulted from our conversation, he realized that words of negotiation need to come first, then physical action is not always required. People behave badly when they feel threatened.

I apoligize for the long anecdotes. After that long explanation, I now tend to believe you may have intended the word violence. Thank you.

Answer 2

The two have nothing to do with each other. In the 50s it was cowboys & Indians. If you have not or will not teach your son proper behavior, do not blame it on the military. Check the closest mirror. My son was the gentlest boy, kind & never in any trouble. He became an honor student & an Eagle Scout, graduated with honors from a great university. He is now a Lt. in the Army and A Ranger - one of the Special Ops. Why to keep your little boy safe. When not on duty he is still gentle & loving to his wife, 2 children & his entire family. 58 of his family on Friday came to see him off to new post with his 9 week old. Aggression is taught at home, we had a no hitting rule at home or school until they hit you twice, then defend yourself. It only occurred once with him & his friends step beside him to defend him - no fight occurred. Do your job & leave the military & world leaders out of it.

Answer 3

she should be and is a major role model for that child. Expose him more to the proper role models as he grows up as well as teach him right from worng and moral values. The golden rule is a great one to teach children. Just remember not to use the do as I say and not as I do principle.

Answer 4

There are good examples and bad examples. Our current world role models are mostly bad examples. Teach him what NOT to be. Remember Goofus and Gallant, the bad/good examples for children? Is it a coincidence that Dubya so closely resembles Goofus?

Answer 5

look if your child looks up to people in a government role get him help what ever happened to a child looking up to some sports heros like the mlba , nfl , nba , nascar , and other sports or even a mom or dad and possibly a teacher or even a local hero like police officer or fire fighter just keep him away from the bs news

Answer 6

His first models are you and your partner so give him a good model and forget about the world. You cannot change the world but YOU can make it a better place for you and those who are around you.