I just split from the relationship of 5 years. We still talk etc. How do I move on? Should I move on?
When he offers security and comfort, is it worth going back and staying with him?
I just feel like I cant stop thinking about all the good times. And there really WERE no bad times, I just didnt feel in love anymore.
How do I know we made the right choice? And dont say "follow your heart". I want advice from real people who have gone thru this.
When or where is that line I have to cross to decide if I need to go back and make it work or move on?
2006-06-13 08:39:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you go back to him, you will never know the inexplicable JOY of being loved, and being "in love". Is that what you want for the rest of your life? No, IT IS NOT! You deserve better than what you had! Move on ..........some nice guy wants to love you, and be in love with you, and you him! Good Luck!!
2006-06-13 09:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, It sounds like you still love this man but you just didn't realize it again until the two of you seperated. If he still feels the same way about you, invite him out to dinner. Somewhere quiet where the two of you can just sit and talk. Stay positive and talk about the good times the two of you have had, You need to remember why you love this man and how good things have been. Keep everything positive. If you are feeling better about things again, go out on a date soon after this dinner. It's possilbe that the two of you just had fallen into a rut just before you split up. Do some of the things the two of you did when you first got together!
I think you will find that you may still love him
Which ever way you go, I wish you the very best of luck
2006-06-13 09:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres the line. If you love him and are committed to him and likewise with him then go back. if you have any doubts what so ever then there is something wrong, there was a reason why you left him. Love is respectful, patient, kind, never harsh and very long lasting. if there is none of those with him. you will not be Happy!
2006-06-13 08:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by kimber g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is not something that just comes and goes, you don't "fall" in and out. Love grows and develops with time and hard work. Love aint always a "feeling", sometimes, it's an action.
Get off your ***, and get back there. Feelings come and go with the changing of the seasons.
2006-06-13 09:11:24 · answer #4 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u go back you ll seem week, but enough is enough you deal with the same old things you can t stand about eachother. just go out and have fun and meet new people, you can make good time with new pepes. the best way is to forget about him and be strong
2006-06-13 08:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by runjoe420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move the hell on with your life and stop the game playing with this man. You are selfish and if you could stay with him and have multiple affairs you would. Stop wasting this mans time. Grow up!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-14 01:55:08 · answer #6 · answered by tcnb1234 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair to him to have you in his life if you
don't love him. Let him be free to find someone
who will love him for being him, not because
of what he can do for her.
Don't USE him any longer. I hope you are better
then that.
2006-06-13 08:52:11 · answer #7 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋