Do some members of the gay and lesbian community have a low opinion of bisexual women?

Answer 1

Maybe, some of them do. I don't.

I don't have a low opinion of anyone because of their sexuality or race.

Answer 2

Unfortunately, there are some members of the LGBT community who have a low opinion of all bisexuals (including bisexual men and women). This is mainly due to the popular misconceptions surrounding bisexuality including:

1. Bisexuals are greedy.
2. Bisexuals are in a state of confusion and can't make their minds up.
3. Bisexuals have double the chance of a date on a saturday night.
4. Bisexuals are simply trying to hang on to heterosexual privileges.
5. Bisexuals have no loyalties towards gays, they will switch sides when the going gets tough.
6. A bisexual could ditch you for a member of a different sex to yourself.
7. A bisexual is twice as likely to be unfaithful, as they fall for both sexes.
8. A bisexual has to date both men and women simultaneously.
9. Bisexuals can't be monogamous.
10. Bisexuals spread STDs.

Unfortunately, these misconceptions are fuelled even further by the lack of a visible bisexual community. The world is predominantly gay or straight, and bisexuals themselves feel that they are in a "no mans land". To a certain extent, its like being halfcast.

Bisexuals have to put up with constant rejection from both prospective homosexual and heterosexual partners.

Answer 3

Yes, they do, although I will say that most of the gay/lesiban community are cool with bi-sexuals(well they are where I live anyway). However It has been said to be that
- I only go with girls to get the attention of men(which is untrue, I have never kissed a girl in front of a group of men, and I hardly ever tell strangers that I am bi-sexual)
- That I can't make my mind up. Why should I? I am attracted to both males and females. I can't help it, I wish I could stick to one, but I can't. Gay and lesiban people argue that they were born the way they are, this is true, and so was I. I'm not going to stop being me, just because some people aren't happy about it.
- That I'm twice as likely to cheat on a partner because there's double the risk I'll fall for someone else. If I am going out with a man or a woman, I will NEVER cheat on them and I never have cheated on anyone . It's a big thing with me, and I have no time for people that do go out and cheat on their partners.

Answer 4

Not just bisexual women, bisexual men as well. Fortunately, not many Gays and Lesbians have that "oh they're really gay - they're just in denial" or "Really, they're just straight - trying to fit in with us purebreed gays" attitude.

It's just that the ones that do are quite vocal (a bit like our "friends" from the Religion and Spirituality forum).

It is true that, whilst some, ostensibly, Bi-folk are just confused and others are only playing it (to appear interesting) - there is no need to tar all Bi-folk with the same brush. We are all individuals (another reason I detest these labels...) and should be treated on our own merits. We share issues with the Gay & Lesbian community, as well as struggle with our own, and there should be a lot less backbiting (well, maybe not! LOL) within the GLBT community.

I'll step off my soapbox now.

Answer 5

Some do, but I don't think they should. I think that bisexual women are ones that just aren't sure yet. That's how I'd label myself, if I had to use a label. Eventually though, I'll probably meet someone that's either male or female, and I'll only want to be with them. In the end, I think you have to go one way or the other, but I don't see a problem with people being open to different things. Some people might think they're doing it just be trendy or to turn on guys, and maybe some do, but true bisexuals are just turned on by both sexes and can't do a thing about it.

Answer 6

Sadly yes. I have a friend that is a bi girl and she has had to fight twice as hard for people to understand her love. But on the other side many people have come to speak up when sterotypes are given about bi girls or bi boys.

My friend found it especially hard to understand the hypocritical view from a person when she went to a GLBTQ youth group, somehow that gay guy couldn’t see that a straight people saying he was messed up and can be “cured” is the same thing as him saying that bisexuality isn’t real. She was crying when she told me, I really wanted to go there and hit that ignorant guy.

If you are bi know that you are not alone, your love is real, and don't pay any mind to the ignorant people that babble otherwise. I put in some links to help you out.

Answer 7

Personally I feel that bisexual women are just greedy. And when it all comes down to the nitty gritty, bisexual can bring a lot of drama into a relationship because there is a chance the lesbian will be ditched for another guy and vice versa.

Answer 8

Yes they do have low opinions of bi women and men. They think they can't commit and they just want to be able to have more choices for partners; my friends and I argue about this all of the time. I don't believe this though, I think people should not worry about gay or bi and if you are attracted to someone, then just go with the flow, whether it's same sex or not. We don't want to be judged for our sexuality and therefore, we shouldn't do it to others.

Answer 9

Being part of it in Manchester, England I can say yes, some do - the opinion is that they are just being greedy or playing at being gay. Not everyone thinks this way though, my opinion is that they've got the best of both worlds, good luck to 'em!

Answer 10

Unfortunately, yes. This makes coming out as bi especially hard since the heterosexual and homosexual communities can isolate bi's. And it is true for guys as well. One of my bi guy friends frustrates many gay guys when he goes to gay clubs because they will be hitting on them and then he tells them he doesn't want to have sex because he is in a committed relationship. And this time it happens to be with a girl.

Answer 11

Some people do. Some people believe in stereotypes that were all slutty, some think that were just confused, for bi women there is this idea that we all dont want to date women, we only want to date men and sleep with women (which becomes a self fufilling prophecy when lesbian women are mean and rude to bi women so bi women say "screw this, I;ll just stick to guys").