I'm interested in having a threesome, how can I bring this up to my husband?

Answer 1

if the 3rd party is a woman, this is a dream come true for him. if it was a man, this is a nightmare.

however, i don't think it's safe for the relationship to do threesome. this is a big step -- don't be surprised if your husband asks for more -- and if you cannot give "more" -- he is going to stray.

Answer 2

Is that FMF or MFM, big, big difference.

First I suggest a complete evaluation of your relationship. There needs to be complete trust and NO jealousy. If not, stop now.

Second, if this is FMF, suggest you go to a strip club. Make up some story about your friends said it was a blast. DO NOT expect the dancers to hook up, but you can BOTH get a lapdance then use that as a discussion point in the future. That alone might be fun enough, but you can then talk about it during sex and see how he feels. By now you should have a good idea if he is game.

If it is MFM, that is way more touchy. Try going to a swingers club, and let some guys flirt with you. If can handle that, he can handle MFM.

Good luck.

Answer 3

If you know yourself and your husband-go for it.

Just be prepared to face the fact that your husband will be with another girl. If that turns you on-even better. If not-you'll be facing those thoughts a lot more in the future.

This is pretty much a "green light" for him to cheat with your permission, so don't be suprised if a lot of his attention goes to the other girl as it's a once in a lifetime opportunity. He knows every inch of your body all too well and will take advantage of the new person.

Answer 4

DON'T DO IT!!!!! Some things are suppose to be left to the imagination, fantasy. If you do this, you WILL most likely have some future repercussions you had not considered. There will possibly be feelings of betrayal because one agreed, kinda like the same feelings as when one cheats behind their partners back but this would be in the open. I know a couple that are swingers, it was all good at first but now they have some serious marital issues because of the choices they made.

Answer 5

another guy or another girl? another girl he'll probably go for, another guy probably not. in the end this is a bad decision and usually results in the same feelings that couples experience when one has cheated, even if it is something they agreed to. you are messing with some serious stuff here and i hope you have considered all the angles, like what if he likes doing her more than he likes doing you? how will it REALLY feel to see your husband touching and being intimate with another person? or how will it make him feel to see you doing it? this is one of those things that is a fun fantasy, its fun to imagine and talk about but the reality of it tends to be far different than the fantasy. once you do this you can NEVER EVER go back to a place where the two of you have only been with each other, its gone forever. face it what you are really saying is you aren't enough for me, how would it make you feel to hear it from him?

Answer 6

Another girl or another guy? That is the first question he will ask.

If you two enjoy watching porn together i would get one that has a threesome in it and watch it. After the scene i would bring up the fact that you think that having one yourself would be fun. and then take it from there.

Answer 7

If you're talking about another woman, I don't think you'll have much talking to do. He'll probably be ready before you finish the sentence. If you're talking about 2 men, try the we do it my way first, then your way next. Try it w/another woman first, then a man. Whichever way suits you. But don't come across in any way that he may feel he's not satisfying you. That would be a big blow to his ego and cause you all kind of problems.

Answer 8

Extra woman or extra man? I suggest you bring it up with the "spice up the sex life" speech. Keeping things interesting is the best way to have a great relationship and keep things from getting dull.

Answer 9

Actually me and my lady are looking for another female to have a 3some with and we both agreed on it and what ever happens afterwards happens BUT (you know there is always one)
but if you are seriously considering it,
make sure that it is what you want because i hear tht if you do it it with someone you love. for some reason one of you loose love or anamosity results and then of course break-up begins
but good luck.......
If any good,sweet, D&D woman out there interested let me know .
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Answer 10

I would say find two other men. Unless your husband is very open minded, it will destroy your marraige. I have know men that have agreed to it, and then afterwards resented the wife and their relationsips were never the same.