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I WAS married for a long time and it took me a long time to get the strength to leave him. I should of done it sooner. If you are scared find some sort of support group or email me.
Once I was away from him, I realized how crazy things and it was way worse then I ever imagined. I believe that marriage is a lifetime commitment. But, it can be broken if things are bad enough. Find a friend who you can depend on to do what you must do. If you have exhausted all hope of improving things, then you need to gather your wits and be strong and do what you need to do. I stayed way to long and it really harmed my two youngest children. They paid a huge price.

2006-06-24 21:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0 0

Somedays I feel that way. I got married at 21, we started dating at 19. We have been together for almost 9 years now, married for 6. We have two beautiful boys. We have nothing in common, from education to what color we like. I come from a loving family, and his lives 10 minutes away and has nothing to do with us. It is very hard to make things work. Somedays I think it would be better if we split, but just how do you come out and say that? We have talked about it in the past year. I went for counseling, thinking he would come to and he hasn't and wont. He kept telling me to go and file and I didn't. Should I have? Probably. But I belive in not running at the sight of trouble, but it is getting harder and harder now. I hate being miserable and I don't want my kids to see me that way. Usually I am a happy go lucky person. How do you know if it is just a phase and things will be better soon. That is where the confrontation comes in, when to do it or when to hold off.

2006-06-13 15:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yes I'm in a marriage that i wish i wasn't in. My youngest child has 4 more years of schooling and then i'm outta here. It does feel nice to have a light at the end of the tunnel. My kids know i'm not happy and that does give me strength. But I will stay with the SOB until the chicks leave the nest, that's the least i can do for my kids. It also gives me time to plan and save and get my agenda ready.

2006-06-27 11:49:39 · answer #3 · answered by redneckgirl 4 · 0 0

I was once in a marriage with 4 children that I was absolutely terrified of going out on my own. With encouragement, especially from my Mom, I did and the days got easier and easier. I look back on it now and see how much time I wasted in a marriage unhappy and wished I had done it sooner. Life is too short to be unhappy with the person you are with. You also need to learn from the bad relationship and look for better qualities in a future relationship. Take time to heal, then move on.

2006-06-13 15:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by Darlene M 1 · 0 0

First of all I donot know your gender but I don't think it really matters. To get to the point.
Not me, I have been married for almost 30 years to the most wonderful woman in the world.

I would say to you that you should seek counselling if you truly feel this way. I think you need a professional to help you get your life straightened out. Sounds to me like your a very confused individual.

good luck in whatever you decide. I say stay with your mate and try to work things out.

2006-06-25 14:15:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I have been there also. I believed in my vows and took them seriously. Abuse was a constant factor in my marraige; but I thought that divorce was a sin. I questioned my existence and prayed everyday that I would somehow get into an accident and die. One day I parked my car on a remote rail way track waiting for a train to hit me. The image of my 3 yr old daughter came to me and I got the strength to leave. The God I know did not put me on this earth to suffer. Trust in him and find your way out. It's hard; but the rewards are worth it.

2006-06-13 15:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by mareez 1 · 0 0

Yes, I have been in that situation. After 13 years of shear hell. I got the courage a couple of years ago to leave. It is a very hard and emotional rollercoaster to leave. But if you are in danger or very unhappy then you should very seriously do it.

2006-06-13 15:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by Aussie Possum 5 · 0 0

Don't we all have moments that we wish we weren't in our marriage? It takes more guts to stay around and confront the issues and work things out than to just leave.

2006-06-25 10:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by Squirrel 3 · 0 0

I was once in that kind of situation. It took me a while to get the balls to go through with it. I let my childhood experiences with divorce influence me. Plus the fact that I have a son. But when I realized that there was no possible way to work it out, I filed.

2006-06-24 13:55:20 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas K 3 · 0 0

I stayed for 17 years...then with God's Grace got the strength
and fortitude to divorce the SOB, got full & total custody of my
son. My life has never been better---and that was years ago.
You learn that the light at the end of the tunnel is not always a
freight train coming at you!

2006-06-13 15:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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