The reason I ask is that I am attracted to older women around 50 years old and none of my family accepts that. They told me to get a young woman around my age or a little younger. I am 21. I know for a fact I wouldn't want a younger woman. I would rather be gay than do that.
2006-06-13 07:58:39 · 4 answers · asked by nvthissweets 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
As someone who has been attracted to older men and yes women I feel that your family is wrong. Love is an absolute no matter what form it comes in. As long as you are happy, nothing else should matter. You are an adult and the ties that would have once bonded you to your parents have started to come undone. You do what you know is right in your heart. Sometimes someone older can be far more mature then someone your own age. That's how I look at it anyways.
2006-06-13 08:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by Wise Hermit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is a certain amount of societal negativity about the older-younger dynamic. older women are usually seen in the mrs robinson seducing the innocent younger man way or, the teacher marrying her student. We wont touch on the billionaire/anna nicole thang. An older woman will put you through far less games than the younger ones, and she will be there for 1 of 2 reasons. #1, because she really likes younger men and wants to form a solid relationship. #2 she likes to "party" and she wants a party hardy. You both need to be very clear about what will be going on. be truthful and respectful. peace and love
2006-06-13 09:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by berthabuns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family os concerned about a serious releationship developing and you may not be abloe tohandle it. The reality is that they do not have to approve as long as you follow your internal moral compass that dictates to you how you feel and teh reaction that you have is one taht is caused by stress and nerves. You must do what you feel is right and be it a positive experience or a negative one it is one you must experience not them. Approval is only another form of control by others to pressure your individuality.
2006-06-13 08:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by psychologist is in 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you feel and your taste is just the way it is. No one has any right to reprimand you for your taste in women. I know that what I say isn't going to make you feel better. You already know that you have a right to feel how you feel.
Perhaps you could see a counselor. I think everyone needs someone to talk to.
2006-06-13 08:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋