She's having sex with a guy who's in the army!!! so 1- its illegal 2- he's supposed to be in iraq right now but isn't cause she told him she was pregnant 3- if her mom found out, she wouln't believe it. she believes her daughter does no wrong ( but she's a slut ).. so i'm completely lost because she's throwing away her whole life and it makes me sick. I'm the only person she talks to about stuff like this, but.. there's only so much i can keep quiet. i just need a lot of help
2006-06-13 07:55:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
tell her parents
2006-06-13 07:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the guy can be put in jail and can get suspended from the army.so i would say just worry about u and not Ur friend even though Ur her friend and if he starts to abuse her in any way shape or form then she should go to someone she trusts and tell them whats going on and if the guy is forcing her to do this then she should go to the police or because she is only 14 maybe a school counselor i mean when i was in school u could just get the hall pass and go.and if she is pregnant and Ur 100 % sure of it u could tell somebody but u should leave it to her to tell someone what is happening.but don't get involved because u could end up doing or sorta getting into the same situation
Kristen
2006-06-13 16:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by valinetimepuppy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not the one who needs help - she does. She obviously is making VERY poor choices and is not mature enough to deal with any consequences.
What do you want out of this friendship? What are you really getting? If you're giving more than you're getting, then it's probably a sign to step back and look at this whole thing. It's easy to want to help someone who is having a hard time, but that doesn't mean sacrificing your time and energy because someone else just doesn't get it. If you still want her as a friend, then just listen to her when she talks (try not to get emotionally involved) and encourage her to see a therapist who can help her work out why she is so in need of attention. It might help you to talk to someone to get your head straight about things too.
Good luck!
2006-06-13 15:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by headshrinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be best to tell her mom that she got to open her eyes and see her daughter is not a baby anymore. Have her mom deal with her and the pregnancy. As for the guy. Its Illegal if she is like 17 or younger and he is 18 + so I would say just tell her mom and let her deal with this whole situation. You surely can't deal with it so tell her mom since thats what moms are there for.
2006-06-13 15:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by alexia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that isn't good. Having unprotected sex is a danger to her life for goodness sakes, having a baby at 14 is just about as dangerous.
Get your mom or if she isn't available a close adult friend (aunt, cousin, someone) and tell them what is going on. It's too much for you to handle, imagine how much more it will be for your friend. If she hates you, well, that will pass, in twenty years she may be thanking you for saving her life!
2006-06-13 15:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by barefeet561 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell her parents and tell her that she needs to get her life straight and make sure that her and the guy will be together for a long time or the baby will have the same screwed up life as her.
2006-06-13 15:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by kaleigh d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being rude is not the answer to a cry for help. if you are a real friend, provide a safe alternative for her rather than her walking into the arms of a man.
2006-06-13 15:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by sharon c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right to do that. Tell her not to have sex unless she can afford her child,and that she needs to stop playing mind games with her boyfriend.
2006-06-13 15:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by tiger_9885 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if she is pregneat you need to tell her mom if she won't.Secound if you can not handle the pressure tell her.
2006-06-13 15:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by crystal b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your gonna have to go to counceling cause this is a tough one
2006-06-13 17:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by west side rider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow her life is screwed if she doesnt get it together
2006-06-13 14:59:09 · answer #11 · answered by some♥chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋