Why does life put friends into your life when you will just have to say goodbye to them when you graduate?

Question

I dont understand why life puts people in your life that you will have to say by to, have your heart broken by, or to see them be ripped out of your life because of war, or death, or anything like this? What is the purpose to put someone through the ups in downs of relationships and friendships why cant it all just be easy (easier)? I mean yes we have freinds that make us feel good about ourselves and we fall in love and have a family, but why must people like this eventually be torn away from us/ we torn away from them. If we truely loved and appretiated someone why should we ever have to be seperated?

Answer 1

Real friends won't be lost because of geography.
I grew up going away to summer camp 1-2 months every summer. I met people from all over the country. Not just friends, but best friends. We lived, ate, and played together every single day. These were the most intense relationships of my youth. Sure, I cried like a baby the last day of camp every year, but I came back and did it again every year. I believe that life is a roller coaster. Not every person that comes in to your life is supposed to be a life long best friend. Some people come in and inspire us, or teach us, and we never see them again. There lesson, their spirit, will always be with us. Good bye is part of life. However there are people who I am not willing to let go of, so I don't. The first friend I ever made was a woman named Jodi that I met in preschool. Jodi lives in New York City, I am in Utah. We are 29 years old a country between us and we are still friends. A woman I made Friends with in kindergarten is the same story except she is in Missouri. No distance can separate friends who are willing to do the work to keep in touch. Who knows you may be together again one day. If not, it is good to have places to stay in every state for when you are road tripping! I love that part of having cross country friends!

"It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" Alfred Lord Tennyson

Answer 2

Though people come and go, you learn something from everyone of them. Also, the pain of going through such hard times develops character as well as strength. In the end, though tears are shed along the way, you WILL look back and smile and inside be a much wiser, stronger and all around better person for each person that has come in your life. Remember, you may have torn a piece of your heart out and given it to them, but in return they tore a piece of theirs out and it's now in place of the hole.

Answer 3

In the general sense of life, we are meant to overcome obsticals. We have to choose which road we want to go down. Life is not intended to be easy, rather we have to chose what we want our life to become. A true friend never leaves us, because you will do everything within your power to keep in touch with that person. Even if a person dies, that person is never gone from us, we will forever have memories to hold onto. Our love for another person doesn't loose its strength due to death or separation, rather it grows fonder with the day that you will be able to rejoin the other person. If life was meant to be easy life would not be much fun to live. We must learn to overcome and move on in order for us to grow stronger as humans. Seeking spirituality for guidance, research, hope, loss and love are the best ways for us to grow as humans.

Answer 4

I believe it's part of our life's lessons to be presented to and influenced by many people-just as you are influencing the lives of so may others as time goes by and may not realize it. It hurts to be separated from those we've come to know for whatever reason but that IS the way of life..change, death and separation as well as birth, closeness of friendships and good loving relationships. The earth can be a tough classroom at times.
I believe it's all for spiritual enhancement, and what we learn going through the "uneasy" parts of our lives can teach us exactly what we need to know.

Answer 5

Would you prefer not to have met them in the first place? One of life's greatest gifts is the relationships we forge with others. If a certain relationship is only for a certain period of time it does not diminish it's impact on our lives.

Also it is possible to remain in touch. It is rare but those friendships that do manage usually become some of the strongest bonds.

Answer 6

Real friends you will never lose, but everyone comes into your life for a purpose. You learn something from all of the people who pass through your life good and bad.

Answer 7

The Navajo people have a saying (I don't remember the literal words, it's in Navajo), but that saying says something to the effect that we all have our paths in life; sometimes those paths are shared with others, our path is much easier and we get farther the more paths we share. And that sums it up to me. Really everybody you know and meet is just the sum total of the people in their lives. Your personality is shaped by events and the people you share them with, be it good or bad.

Answer 8

You can keep in touch as long as you want the friendship to continue. I have known my best friends for 50 years. We lived on different coasts and now she retired in my town. We have kept the friendship going by phone and letters and now and then a visit.

Answer 9

Nothing is forever.
As you travel through life, retain all that you can learn from friends. They all teach us something. What we should do, as well as, what we should not do. When your life nears it's end, these are the people you will remember and all that they imparted to you. Let us all hope that we deserve that same rememberance.

Answer 10

people r but in your life so you can be a better person.you never have 2 say bye forever if u feel that person is some one you want 2 know give family names and #s