JESUS! Take a breather! You don't HAVE to get married just because you are smitten with someone. You have to FEEL the connection....and ladies, I don't mean your over-emotional hormonal feelings....TRUE feelings that this is the right person. Avoid all these goddamned problems, and stop marrying the wrong people!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-13 07:31:02 · 36 answers · asked by yosoyfantastico 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am 28 years old and have been with my partner for 9 years. We had 3 kids, 7,4, and a 10 month old. Just recently we seperated, a week ago to be exact. I didnt rush in to things. I really thought and felt it in my heart that he was the one for me. I still do but I dont think he feels the same way. I left him because he had me and my 3 kids living with his parents for 5 years in a room. Yes, a room, the five of us, crammed in there. I went through his brother calling me a B**** and let me add that he is only 14 years old and I said nothing. I couldnt, it wasnt my house. They would go in my room when we werent home and they would sweep the trash from the house and sweep it under my bed piled up neetly adn hide it under my shoes. It was good at first but little by little things started getting bad. I just couldnt take it anymore and decided to get my kids and leave. I left him because I didnt want to live there no more. Now he texts my cell with stupid remarks like I cheated on him and a bunch of other obscene comments. I dont know if he does it because he's hurt or if its how he really feels. I guess it really doesnt matter how old you are, as long as you feel it and your heart is telling you that he or she is the one. Not everything in life last forever even though we would want it to.
2006-06-26 18:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by angie n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I learned the hard way. Maybe each generation has to make their own mistakes before they know better. I married at 22 and didn't have a clue of what I wanted or who I was. Then I spent years trying to make it a happy marriage.
I remain single until I find a man who will meet my needs and expectations.
It is amazing that love and marriage is so honored that people spend thousands of dollors on a wedding only to break up and add pain and sorrow to their lives.
A really really really good book to read is
ARE YOU THE ONE FOR ME?
It has saved me from other bad choices. I would rather die alone than be stuck in a bad relationship.
2006-06-25 19:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young people do this due to several factors. One of them is that they don't have the experience that older people have, so they do foolish things. Another is that their parents haven't taught them the difference between true love and infatuation. How can they teach that when there are a lot of single parents, drug addicts for parents, etc? Young people learn by what they see, not so much by what they hear. So, if they see their parents being abusive and getting married young, then they will, probably, do it too. Another thing is that younger people don't have the common sense that older people do (we have experienced a lot more and with experience comes common sense and wisdom).
When you can understand these things, then you can understand more of why young people do what they do. I am not condoning what they do, just know why they do it.
2006-06-13 07:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SERIOUSLY! I'm so sick of the "I'm 19 and I'm in love and now I am getting married!" crap. If I would have got married when I was 19 I would have been divorced by the time I was 22 because I was such a different person just between those few years. It makes no since getting married that young.
2006-06-26 18:46:56 · answer #4 · answered by ^v^ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me young people feel as if they will be missing out on so much such as sex and men. Those are the two things that will not go anywhere. Men are not going anywhere because God gave us women the gift to give birth to all the men living on this earth. Sex is definitely not going anywhere because too many people are horny as it is. When you slow down you realize there are so many other things you could be putting your focus on like your education, your health, a great career, etc. Rushing will only cause you to make too many mistakes, and in the world we live in, too many won't help you.
2006-06-25 11:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by sexylips 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes life is short but you do have to look at the big picture. Slow down take a breather, there must to mush heartact in this world.
2006-06-26 07:11:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are signs in the beginning before getting married..Some just chose to over look the most important details!
There's only one way to avoid marrying the wrong person..That way is allowing God to chose our mates. When we go out on our own we tend to mess up hugely..
2006-06-26 14:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an old soul at heart and I feel that young people today, including me don't take the time to think and rationalize. We jump into things to fast and then we are trying to get out faster than we jumped in, so my advice to my fellow youngin's , " keep a clear mind and things will never be blurry, unless you stop thinking."
2006-06-27 06:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by knickcelticyankee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agreed. I think the majority of the world's problems could be resolved if there was mandatory contraception. And I am not kidding. This would avoid many wrong marriages, unwanted and unloved children, and continuing cycles of poverty.
2006-06-25 09:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by Randa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married is awesome, I've done it 3 times and it's the best way to meet the next Ex-Mrs, at the wedding, go for it young people, go for it.
2006-06-25 14:10:15 · answer #10 · answered by The Burro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋