Being in the military my husband was aware that at any time I could get called up, so I volunteered! Now they are saying we will be gone longer than what they had originally said. Is 18 mths too long to ask my husband to wait for me?
2006-06-13 07:21:02 · 15 answers · asked by RX2 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I volunteered now, instead of getting picked up for a tour when my husband and I are trying to start a family. We are happily married, I'm just terrified he will fall out of love with me after so long!
2006-06-13 07:55:11 · update #1
Not at all. If he won't I think the rest of this country will!!!!!
God bless you, stay safe and THANK YOU for keeping people like me safe and free to be with my wife while you and your husband ar apart, If he can't see the sacrifice you are making let me know, I will tell him for you.
THANKS,
Andy
2006-06-13 07:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by Andy S 3 · 15⤊ 1⤋
i believe that there's no such thing as "waiting" in marriage. A spouse should stay with his/her partner all the time and that means forever. That's the vow that you made for each other when you got married.
On the other hand, you should also put into consideration that 18 months being apart is hard. a lot of things may happen. Be open minded when it comes to the possibility that changes may happen in your relationship, which are inevitable. if the time comes for you to leave, make sure to have a heart to heart talk with your husband. i understand how each of you feels and gotta admit, i wouldn't want to be in neither's shoes.
i just wish you both goodluck.
2006-06-13 14:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by tangerine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would that even be a question, he is your hubby he has to wait, uness there is more problem to the relationship. why would he not wait. if he loves you at all he would wait and it wouldnt even be a question.18 months is a long time but he should wait for his wife, but there should be no reason a man should not wait, he loves you and will wait a life time for you .
2006-06-13 14:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you, then he'll wait faithfully for you.
Maybe you should front out ask him how he feels about you volunteering for a tour!
Good Luck, be safe!
Aloha!
2006-06-13 14:33:38 · answer #4 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not. If he loves you then he will wait 18 years if needed.
2006-06-13 14:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by pjthedj247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you werent married and he was just your boyfriend, yes it might be too long. but being married he promised to be with you for the rest of your lives, so no, its not too long. it'll strain the relationship a little but it should be fine. since you're in the military he should be 'used' to it. its something you have to accept when you're married to someone in the service. im not married to a serviceman but my dad was in the service. its something you get used to. its not easy but you have to accept it.
2006-06-13 14:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by tanja_berengue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your husband he should be waiting for you even if it takes 24 months or longer!!!
2006-06-13 14:25:03 · answer #7 · answered by Penny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not. But you making decisions that affect both of your lives without thoroughly investigating the ramifications thereof is extremely irresponsible of you. Nice work, Missy.
2006-06-13 14:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by yosoyfantastico 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to "ask" that he wait for you, it should be a given that he would. If you were just dating, it would be a different story, but you're married!
2006-06-13 14:28:32 · answer #9 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope he took a vow knowing you could possibly have to go. He should wait
2006-06-13 14:31:21 · answer #10 · answered by mimismom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋