i don't want to offend this person but she knows i am agnostic and she keeps telling me she EXPECTS to see me at church, everytime i talk to her she brings it up etc. i want to be tactful, please help or share your stories if this happened to you.
2006-06-13 07:20:49 · 22 answers · asked by origchick 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is a touchy topic and I agree that a abrupt answer would come off as rude, so... I have two suggestions:
1. Sit this person down and tell her that you will go to church with her once to check it out just to see if you're really interested or not. If you are completely unhappy with the service and its message, let her know that you really have no belief in this religion and have no interest in going to service again. This will satisfy her want for you to go, and you were nice enough to give it a try, which should mean something to this her.
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2. Just sit her down and tell her that you just really have no interest in church and that you do not appreciate being asked to go.
I would highly suggest #1, but if you're set on never entering a church, then there isn't really another option besides #2
Best of luck.
2006-06-13 07:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was pressured to go to church every Tuesday,FRiday, and Sunday... I was pressured to pray.... and I didn't want to stop for this i what appened to me :(
My parents died like a month ago, then my girlfriend dumped me. I started cutting and barfing food. I went to school and fainted as I was walking through the hallway. then I went to my house where i found the government asking me to pay for everything.The sad part is, im barely going to turn 15. I was getting so mad sad and nervous... then I couldn't breathe and fainted, when i woke up at the hospital. I tried to leave and i said "but it was just a panic attack" and the nurse said " cause by starvation" then i went to counseling but im still not over any of those.
(please send this and repost in myspace, the more posts i get, the less money I'll have to pay to keep my house)
2006-06-13 07:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person is not behaving like a Christian, she's being demanding and manipulative, to say nothing of committing the sin of self-righteousness. You have told her your answer: no thanks. Her persistence is not that of a friend you want or need to avoid offending. You will need to tell her, politely but firmly, that you are not interested and that you expect her to drop the subject permanently. If she does not comply after that, or if she storms off in a huff - well, you're better off. Such people make a mockery of faith, and this one hasn't the grace to be ashamed of herself. I congratuate you for being so tolerant. Me - I'd have smacked her by now!
2006-06-13 07:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her very nicely how many times do you need to tell her no! I have the same problem with my husband's family- I have been telling them no for 32 years- not about church in general, but their church in particular.
2006-06-13 07:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like that need to be spoken to honestly. Just tell her in a polite tone of voice "Everytime you and I talk you bring up wanting to see me at church and it is beginning to make me uncomfortable."
Then just look at her and wait for her response. Keep it short and simple.
Good Luck
2006-06-13 07:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by MoMattTexas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her this: "Listen, I appreciate your concern for me, and I know you are just trying to share what you enjoy. I am not interested, and would appreciate if you would stop bringing it up. If I ever feel ready, I'll try it out in my own time." Be calm, and smile. You don't want to repel this person as a friend or acquaintence.
2006-06-13 07:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One time a woman kept calling me up and inviting me to church. One day she called and made a comment that the people in the chuch are bonded by special glue. I asked her you kill horses in church and smear yourselves with glue??? What kind of a church do you go to?? Sounds like you got santanic rituals going on.
She never called back.
2006-06-13 07:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say I believe in the religion, but I would like to practice it my own way...And that is not having to go to church, every weekend just to go.
2006-06-13 07:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by muchomacho80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, the best way is to offend the person a little. tell her that to go church to meet people like you. no thanks. and by the way demanding and asking are two different ways to get people to church. you're demanding and i hate that.
2006-06-13 07:34:47 · answer #9 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. I've been hounded by zealots, whom for the life of me, stop at dang near nothing to persuade me to share in their beliefs. I kindly tell them that I do not share their beliefs, and they are wasting their time.
2006-06-13 07:41:25 · answer #10 · answered by Battlerattle06 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋