This relates to my last question. Im 23 and my husband is 25. He wont make love to me. I know he isnt cheating (im with him 24/7) and we like it that way. His father had the same problem with his mother. Could having no desire for sex have been genetically passed down? He says he knows he has a problem, but he doesnt know what it is or how to change it. He says he wants to make love to me, but he says he never even thinks about sex.
2006-06-13 07:13:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He doesnt even hardly ever masturbate! And he has no problem whatsoever getting it up. He doesnt seem stressed out. What's going on?
2006-06-13 07:16:38 · update #1
Seek Help, Counseling and I am sure these days that have some type of medical help he could get.
2006-06-13 07:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by MoMa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have him go to the Dr. I am sure if its genetic he will be able to pinpoint the reason he has such a low sex drive. there is medication for everything these days. the Dr can also tell you if its not genetic or medical and can suggest the best way for you to handle the situation. you don't even have to go to a specialist just any family Dr can help. its nothing to be embarrassed about. if he cares about you then he will go for himself and for you because making love is an important part of marriage. he has done the hard part and admitted that he has a problem now all you have to do is point him in the right direction to fix it and let him know how much it means to you that he is willing to seek help for it.
2006-06-13 07:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isnt about the desire to make love. The intimacy level in your relationship is probably what is lacking. I would suggest some time away. Absence makes the heart grow fonder....too much closeness makes the heart go yonder.
2006-06-13 07:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by proffalken1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go together to see a doctor about the problem. Let him know that there is no need to be embarrassed, doctors have heard of worse things by far. There could be a simple answer like certain things to eat, or suppliments to take.
2006-06-13 07:18:05 · answer #4 · answered by visionssofaraway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to a sex therapist, or perhaps better, a relationship/marriage therapist.
Immediately, if not sooner.
Alone, if he won't go with you.
And if he knows he has a problem and won't try to fix it for your sake, then he doesn't really love you. You are human - don't settle for someone who doesn't care about your needs.
There's more I could say, but this is the short, sweet answer. :)
2006-06-13 07:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by im_a_fun_nut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be genetics.... Sounds like you spend too much time together! I know that's normally not a bad thing, but perhaps you should try a little time apart each day.
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2006-06-13 07:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship without equal sex drives cannot work. I speak from experience.
2006-06-13 07:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by joe c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have himself checked out by a doctor.
You should find out if it's physical or mental, something he could overcome, and if it's something you can live with for the rest of your life.
That's tough, good luck to you both.
2006-06-13 07:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch porno tapes with him and try a differect aproach to starting the mood or he might be guy and is afraid to tell you.
2006-06-13 07:20:13 · answer #9 · answered by toon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your sex schedule. Make it a habit for him.
2006-06-13 07:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by amie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋