We live in the country in West Tennessee. He lost his driver's license for 1 year for a DUI and he doesn't want to ask for rides to the grocery stores. I say I could provide him with 2 weeks of cigarettes and food and he can't say that I can't visit my mom. She doesn't have much time left. Any other solutions that will allow me to go without feeling guilty?
2006-06-13 07:04:57 · 19 answers · asked by MissKathleen 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He made his bed when he chose to drink and drive. Your mother is your mother. You should choose the person who has been there for you. You will always regret not going. I speak from personal experience. Not being there is something you can never go back and fix and it is a hurt that never goes away
2006-06-13 07:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's your mom!! Go see her! She doesn't have much time left so you should be with her while you can. As for the boyfriend, it's not your fault he had a DUI. If he doesn't want to ask for a ride to the grocery store, he can walk, take a bike, or the bus. He's a grown man. He can get around on his own. You may feel guilty for leaving him behind but you would feel even worse if you didn't see your mom before she passes.
2006-06-13 07:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by No_S_Kape 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is a selfish, no good . . . , but that is besides the point.
Your mother is the only one you've got and as you have said you have only a short time left to spend with her. You deserve the opportunity to enjoy your mother's company and she deserves yours. You have a right to love your mother and you should not feel guilty about it.
There is an old expression that goes something like "once you've made your bed, you sleep on it". For your boyfriend this means that he has lost his license doing something stupid and now he must reap the consequences. How is he going to learn from his punishment if you are tied to the steering wheel for his convenience? Tell him to get a bicycle and get his cigarettes and food by himself. I'm sure the exercise and fresh air will do him good.
Go see your mother now because your boyfriend with all of his problems will be there when you get back.
Enjoy your stay. Enjoy your mom's company.
2006-06-13 07:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by happybujok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Kathleen,
Yes my answer would be that he is trying to be controling and that is what you do not need from a boyfriend or husband, for he needs to understand that he is even lucky to be living with you in the first place. Tell him if he does not like it to take a 3 mile walk on a 2 mile marina dock. Oh one more thing, he needs to dry up and be responsible as an adult and stop drinking so he can get his license back but more likely he will not stop drinking and that my friend is a time bomb waiting to explode, find another guy who is going to treat you right and you need to see your mom as often as you can before she does pass for I know the feeling. This is old Sarge so you have a great day ok and take care.
2006-06-14 00:38:47 · answer #4 · answered by jkraft662 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you feel guilty? Life is far too short to let some dude, no matter how special he thinks he is, stop you from ever seing your mother ever, and especially not when you don't think she has much time left. If you love your mother, you go visit her and savor your time together without any regrets. You did not lose that dude's license for him, and he can walk if he needs to go somewhere.
2006-06-13 07:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by krissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump him like a dirty diaper. He's mooching off of you, and telling you what to do? I think not! Go see your mother. You never know how much time she has left. As for the fool, he made his decisions, now he must live with the consequences. You should not be part of his "welfare" system. He has to grow up some time, and there's no time like the present.
Start packing your bags for a visit to see your mother.
Regards!
2006-06-13 07:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by Battlerattle06 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your BF needs to grow up and quit being an idiot, accept the unfortunate consequences of his unfortunate decisions and NOT get in the way of what you feel are legitimate familial concerns. Only a jerk would suggest that you cannot make such a trip. If he persists - you need to lose the guy, this answer coming to you from a male (as in - not gender biased).
2006-06-13 07:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by sylhyntm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt sound like hes much of a winner anyways...DUI? Cigs?...other than that Its your mother and you will feel more guilty not visiting her than not driving him around for a couple days... he should respect that, and thats wrong of him to keep you away..
Good luck with this situation
2006-06-13 07:13:34 · answer #8 · answered by skaterchick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel guilty about visiting your mother. She's your mother. He should be more supportive. If he's too boneheaded to understand, then you don't need him. It's his own damn fault he can't drive himself. Get him a bicycle.
There are other fish in the sea. You only have ONE mother.
2006-06-13 07:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mother has little time left then you need to go visit her. If your bf loved you he would understand. Damn him and his DUI, that was not your doing. Pls visit your mom while you have time. Good Luck!
2006-06-13 07:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by vernise2679 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋