Why do so many American marriages end in divorce?

Question

I am looking for specific reasons/problems in American society that could be contributing to this issue. And any proposed fixes to this problem would be great to hear as well.

Answer 1

The obsession with always having to be "happy". People think that you have to always be "happy", sometimes things get rough and instead of working it out and sticking it out when things aren't going your way people quit. There are so many reasons people give for divorcing but I think the one you here the most is " I just wasn't happy anymore". Well who is happy all the time? It's OK to have a bad spell of time. It's OK to have a problem in your marriage that lasts a few months even a year or more but you can't just say this isn't fun I'm outta here. We live in a society that put to high of a value on fun. Don't get me wrong I love a good time and I love feeling happy but you can't base your whole life on if it's not fun I don't want to do it. How would anything get done? Children need to see parents stick it out they need to see that life in general isn't a cake walk. They need to see that you don't always get what you want. Maybe then people will stop looking for the easy way out of everything and learn to cherish the fun happy times instead of taking it all for granted.

Answer 2

Money, Debt, Money, Debt,..... around and around

I have seen it through friends, family, co-workers, and even through my own experience. Money attracts a mate, lack of it drives them away. In a farce, to make it work, the most finacially unstable partner will just want to believe in true love. Then you go into debt until you and the relationship goes bankrupt too.

Watch out for these trends:
1. Whining about money problems is not sexy, if the money issues go south, intimacy will soon follow.

2. A partner who thinks that after a life of dependecy on their parents or family, they can become indepent and contribute to a healthy realationship needs to seek consuling.

3. Someone who is so idealistic that they can not grasp the fact that a healthy relationship is also a bussines partnership. Sometimes a divorce is just a fancy name for "your fired".

Marriages that work: One partner works (and brings in a very good income and the other parter stays home and both agree this is a good thing. Or both partners work, have only minor personal debts and both agree that this is a good thing. It will flop if one partner thinks "well someday I can quit my job and stay home with the kids". This is the age of the 2 income household, and too many people lie and BS about the fact that they will be ok with working thier whole life, (unless your one of 10% who have money to quit and do it).

Who to blame: They original golddiggers and arrangment of marriages that turned marriage and love into capitalism. A marriage certificate is nothing more than stock now, and everyone knows you sell an unprofitable stock.

Answer 3

Because they make it too easy to get a divorce in this country. But the main reason is people think since they're with this person already for a long period of time or let's say they think that they know this person very well now that they need to settle down. I have a friend who's gf's been bugging him about marriage. now he's being pressured and he's not sure if he really wanna spend the rest of his life with her. but he's afraid to be alone again so this guy is might just pop the question to please her and this is a candidate for a divorce. And may I remind you that this applies to all people not just Americans. Some countries are even worst they just cheat their partners because they don't have divorce. So the key is 'Don't rush into marriage, make sure that this is the person you really wanna be with for the rest of your life'.

Answer 4

In my own opinion I think it is because people are either marrying to young and/or for the wrong reasons. Some marry just because there is a baby on the way. I beg people to not use that as a reason to stay together or marry, sometimes that just hurts the child more then have to different sets of family. Sometimes I believe that if you really truly think that you have found the right person,then you should live with them for awhile first. This way you know what to expect and you aren't going into it blind. I really do believe if people did this the divorce rate would drop drastically.

Answer 5

People in America have expectations that are too high. They root from growing up thinking money is the most important thing, instead of family, and love.

A major lack of patience is in play, too. Nobody is perfect. People focus on the small stuff, and nitpick on the details that make each of us an annoying individual. Literally.

But, first and foremost, Americans generally pick the wrong person, and marry for the wrong reasons. Sex. Gold-diggers. You name it, America does it. Marriage is crap in America, now. Nobody is brought up to realize the importance of anything but the bottom line, and it makes me sick.

Oh, and GOD has NOTHING TO DO WITH IT. Just a message for the inevitable Jesus freaks that are going to answer this question.

Answer 6

A lot of people want quick fixes to their problems. When they can't find any to solve their marriage issues, they get divorced. I think a lot of people also got married for the wrong reasons and instead of working on things, they just give up. All the TV shows promote having affairs and treating spouses like dirt so it's easy to see why people do it. I also believe people have addictions to drugs and alcohols that severely inhibit all their relationships.

Answer 7

well besides money, I think its because most people who get married don't take it seriously and need to realize what marriage really is.
There are just too many people getting married to be "married". They don't realize that a marriage take ALOT of hard work and compromise. They just take divorce as the "easy" way out.

Answer 8

Traditions and relaxed atmosphere that the US is known for. Other countries have arranged marriages or its written in law that they have to stay married or in some African countries, they have multple wives and thats the norm. In the US, people have the idea of the grass being greener on the other side or they can't handle conflict

Answer 9

because, there are choice's complainant is very important, its always like that, if your spouse has no complain, what is the argument or issue all about.
what are the complaint:
1.wife after birth loose or bad figure.
2.violence
3.financial
4.not the real soul mate
5.spouses are flirt
6.drug & alcohol
7.and many many more.
8.violation of marriage contract is cheating

but spouces who work i t out stay together
and some family are just amazing

Answer 10

In my honest opinion, they do not have God in their lives. A successful marriage must have God involved. If God is not involved, then Satan comes in and wrecks things. Weapons of Satan; temptation, adultry, financial destruction, anger, drugs and alcohol, etc. I'm not trying to preach but you asked and this is how I feel. I feel if more couples leaned on God then they would be strengthened and could make it through anything! God is love and is the opposite of those Satanic weapons I listed above! Have a great day!