i am having a baby and my boyfriends parents bought us a house. i mean i want to leave home and live with him but i dont want to leave my mom. i hate leaving her all by herself. i always want to cry when i stay with him i dont know what to do can you guys help me
2006-06-13 06:51:09 · 9 answers · asked by babydoll_77_lover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Follow your gut feeling. If your gut is telling you that you are not ready to leave home....don't. When you are ready to pick up and find a place of your own...you will know. Just because you are having a baby, it doesn't mean your ready to live on your own. I didn't move out until I was 25 year old and that's because I felt I was ready. So take your time, no one is rushing you. When you feel that you can handle the outside world on your own (steady job, paying bills, buying groceries, and etc.)...then your ready.
2006-06-13 07:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spread your wings girl!
I know it can be hard leaving home by 17, but you will have a baby and seem to love your boyfriend - who'll have to tie the knot soon....
Concerning your mum, it can be difficult especially if you do have a very good relationship with her. But ask yourself what your mum would like you to do. It would be kind of selfish asking you to stay at HER home while you're having your own family. If she truly loves you, she'll turn up when not expected to check on you and her grandson/daughter.
Distance might be an issue, but you seem to start in Life with lots of Love arround you and your bounds can't be torn apart by a few miles.
You'll need lots of support from her as the baby comes and your mum will always be there for you if you need her.
Try to look forward welcoming her to YOUR home for tea and biscuits, it is quite heart warming.
Go ahead.
Wishing you both the best.
2006-06-13 07:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by Tommy Covent Garden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, it is a hard thing to do. no one can really tell you what to do. you have to find the on your own, but one thing to think of is that you can call her no matter where you are and its not like you'll be on other planets you'll will still see each other. A good idea if you move out is to have her stay with you for a couple weeks after the baby is born to help out. This will help both of you adjust to all the changes.
2006-06-13 06:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by Juice99_02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule of thumb...don't stay together just because of a baby. A baby doesn't miraculously make things happy for you. If you want to stay home and take care of your mother, will she object if maybe you and your boyfriend moved in there? Or just yourself?
2006-06-13 06:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by lmafishfish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being 17 and pregnant doesn't mean you are emotionally or mature enough to leave home. But some people can't seem to leave at 30
2006-06-13 07:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mother must learn that there comes a time when their child must move on with their lives. As well as you should know that when your expecting child grows up. Just have a talk with her and let her know that you are not leaving her forever.
2006-06-13 07:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by damethodman10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says to leave your parents and cleave unto your mate. I know it must be hard, but life is full of hard knocks, as you have found out. She can visit as many times as you want and for how long as you want. Good Luck!
2006-06-13 06:57:44 · answer #7 · answered by icemountian8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay home,
stop dating,
ask for more assistence from your parents for your college.
Study for 4 more years,
look for a job that gets you $50K
Start dating,
ASK this question again.
2006-06-13 06:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let your mom moved in with u to help u and the baby OK
2006-06-13 06:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by sassyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋