We lost our only son(10 months old) 9 months back in an accident , i am on bed due to accident,since then. My wife got too agressive and loose her temperment too fast. I was not in position to control or take care of my wife as had major fracture.She is very sensitive. can any one help me how to control her to be normal as she was earlier
2006-06-13 06:47:50 · 14 answers · asked by PUNEET K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
your wife is in so much pain that the only way to help her is to get her some professional help....she lost her baby and if it was me i would rather be dead my self...she needs a lots of love and understanding right now....people grieve in different ways and this is how she is handling loosing her little baby..you might need a family member to stay with you guys until you get better,and then you both need counseling to learn how to let go.i cant tell you she will be alright because the death of a child is something that you just cant overpass,but there is hope and she can learn to live with it....that is when she is going to need you,her husband you are the rock,just be patience with her...im real sorry about your lost,im going to pray for you guys.good luck.
2006-06-13 06:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 21:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you loss, Bra... that's brutal.
You and your wife have had to experience some very traumatic things - an accident that has messed you up and then the loss of your only son on top of it!! You and your wife's emotions must be all over the place!
Maybe you both need to speak to a professional about the grief and trauma.
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2006-06-13 06:54:29 · answer #3 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! This one is hard to answer. First of all, I wish you a speedy recovery. I was in bed for 4 months due to a drunk driver and had to be taken care of by my family.
Your wife is having to deal with the loss of a son and assisting you at the same time. The loss of a family member can hurt for a very long time and people deal with it in their own way.
You may want to try talking with her to see how you can help her at the same time she is helping you. Talking usuallly helps situations find a solution.
Good luck and just give it some time.
2006-06-13 06:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by NyceGyrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need counseling. Losing a child is the worst thing to happen to parents. We lost our son 4 years ago, he was 17. My marriage has totally crumbled since he died. Your wife is going through all of the grief emotions, as i'm sure you are as well. Please talk to each other about the loss, don't push away. If my husband hadn't turned away from me, everything would have been ok, eventually. I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-06-13 11:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both have been through alot. I know everything right now is not easy but all you can do is try. I would tell you to just leave but it would make matters worse and thats not always the solution to the problem. Try to talk it out with her...if she doesnt want to talk then just let her biotch. If he is that fed up with you also then she will leave....it's kind of a loose loose situation....Maybe you should go to church together or go see a marriage counselor
2006-06-13 06:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by kkds14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother was lying on his death bed hooked up to a machine to help him breathe. He was brain dead and would not survive without the machine. My father made the decision to pull the plug. When my brother took his last breath my father turned to me and said - "You have no idea what it's like to loose a child"
I can't get in your wife's head, but the daily torture of loosing your child has to be immense. It's totally unnatural for a parent to bury a child.
If you both close up emotionally the relationship will fail. Ask her to talk to you, and most importantly, listen to what she is saying. Women love and learn by talking, but they need someone to hear what they are saying.
Absolutely seek professional help
2006-06-13 07:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by Franklin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, do not try to control your wife. Of course she is very sensitive right now. A baby is very attached to his mom at that age and this is a very tragic incident in your wife's life. She needs counseling and possibly medication for depression. You should go with her as well.
If you can't afford a private therapist, go to your local mental health dept. for help. The sooner the better.
2006-06-13 06:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by teechallkids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should see a doctor. She sounds like she needs grief counseling. She lashed out at you because you are her husband and she is close to you. Cut her a break. She needs help with the loss. Another child at this time is not the answer
2006-06-13 08:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's very hard to lose someone expecally a child. you have to understand her pain. i'm sure you're hurting as well but she might need to see some canceling.she could get over it on her own in all do time but it may also only get worse.to save what part of herself that she has left she's gonna have to get some real help
2006-06-13 06:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by kansasgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋