She was a dear friend for like 5 or 6 years. She is about 10 years younger than me, but still a good 15 years or so older than him. She and her boyfriend (who was 8 years her junior) were good friends of me and my husband. She has 3 daughters who are now like 12, 16, & 17. My son is 20 now, but was 16 or 17 when it started. I'm too angry to speak. I dare not go near her in fear of killing her. My son doesn't know I've found out.
2006-06-13 06:47:16 · 9 answers · asked by Ya Ya 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She's no "good friend". That sounds like a Lifetime Television for Women movie. You know, as a mother I want to say I'd kick her @ss. But really, at this point there isn't anything you can do but sever your friendship with her. He's 20 now, and the statue of limitation for rape ends at age 18 in most states (though you might want to research this for your state). Your son, if he's the "mature type" could have very well seduced her. But as I said, he's 20 now and there's nothing you can legally do. I know you are hurt, angry and betrayed, I would be too. And I'm so sorry for you. Hopefully you and your son can discuss this and find out why/how it started. But I would definately approch the woman and ask her why? How would she feel if a man her age had an affair with her 16 or 17 year old daughter? She'd have him in jail so quickly. Remind her of that.
Jesus, lady. My heart goes out to you, really. If you ever want to chat more, send me a message and we can exchange email address. Good luck.
2006-06-13 07:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think the time for saying anything has passed, as your son is now a legal adult. Does your friend know that you know? If it is bothering you that much, I'd let him know that you know about it, that it bothers you and you don't agree with his choice, but you realize he's an adult and is able to make his own decisions. I think if you say more than that, you risk alienating your son. If it's bothering you that much and you don't say something to him, there will be a wall between you and your son and eventually, it'll all come out. Just remember, you're the "experienced" adult, conduct yourself as such.
2006-06-13 06:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by jada_riab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my son that I know and that you don't support it. On the other hand if they have been dating 3 years. I don't think it will last...my question would be why he is looking for a mother figure as a girlfriend?
2006-06-13 06:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by totalstressor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel..... maybe we shold help each other out...... I have a friend who is 23 and he is going out with my friend daughter who is only 15....... I would love to tell her but i can..... so e-mail me and we can plan something out...... if u go to my profile thing u can email me threw there and i will never know u'r email address is that make u feel more confortable
2006-06-13 06:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your son and if he is young enough, you can tell the authorities that your son has been the victim of statutory rape...good luck
2006-06-13 06:50:40 · answer #5 · answered by wjdoyle35 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.......is your Son and this women still messing around?
2006-06-13 07:18:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
frankly what business of yours is it who your son sleeps with? he has his own life you know. let him make his own mistakes, and keep your big nose out
2006-06-13 06:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares its their life
2006-06-13 07:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by sweetz1507 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how did you find out...i would STOMP her A**...she is a freakin pervert
2006-06-13 06:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by countrygirlcansurvive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋