2006-06-13 06:41:18 · 27 answers · asked by nicole a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just didnt want to do it. I know I got married for the wrong reasons, and really didnt find him that attractive.
Has anyone else married NOT for love?
2006-06-13 06:46:33 · update #1
if you have saved yourself from having sex from anyone and married a person of the same values he will understand and feel just as understanding. if you have done it for any other reason then it is my belief that we don't make our bad luck cause there is no such thing. we choose our own good or bad in how we believe. believe in good and live by these standards then you have only to live by doing your best. don't take life so serious and have faith.
2006-06-13 06:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by g-ma14 1 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I bet we would all be surprised at the number of couples who do not have sex on their wedding night. Think about it - all the time leading up to the wedding, all the energy put into the planning, all the worry, all the excitement - then the day comes and all the logistics have to come together "just right" --- and everyone is looking at YOU ...the pressure is constant ALL DAY (to say nothing about all that pressure that has been building and sapping you of strength over the preceding weeks and months.) Then finally, you are alone! Thank GOD - you can get out of the dress (or the tux) and take a long, hot shower - and RELAX because you are exhausted. Sex ? Now ? You've GOT to be kidding?!?!??!!!
Actually, I think it should be mandatory that there is no sex on the first night and that the "wedding" night is the next night at the very least!
2006-06-13 06:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not right, but I must confess I did not have sex on my wedding night. After driving for 3 1/2 hours to the hotel at 12:00 pm I was happy I was not in jail never mind getting a little. No big deal.
2006-06-13 06:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not a bad sign of things to come. If you haven't had any type of intimate realationship before you're marriage, then it's quite normal. Some people just don't feel comfortable at this early stage. I know of my brother's wife who felt the same way. We never want to force our mates but make sure they feel at ease when they first encounter this intimate and bonding experience. If you need time, let your mate know. If your mate truly loves you (hence - your wedding), then they'll take your feelings in consideration and not force the matter. What makes a marriage are the experinences and memories that are built through time and having someone to confide in. Don't worry. It will have it's natural progression.
2006-06-13 06:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by Level424me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husband got too drunk to have sex on wedding night . . . been married 27 years. If this is your sign of bad things to come, you won't make it a year. Quit looking for "signs" and treat each other with love, respect & understanding.
2006-06-13 06:45:00 · answer #5 · answered by trisha79387 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It very well could be. I can't think of any good reasons barring some tragedy (death in the family, car wreck etc etc) happening why you wouldn't want to celebrate what is suppose to be the happiest day in your life. There is a reason that you can get an annulment if your marriage hasn't been consummated. Its a big deal. I would be a tad worried if that was the case.
2006-06-13 06:45:02 · answer #6 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not a bad sign. A lot of couples are exhausted by the wedding ceremony, may have too much to drink and all they really want to do is sleep. You have the rest of your lives for sex. Enjoy!
2006-06-13 06:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt like not having sex on my marriage night. I was so tired and my husband was drunk. But I did it anyway just to go through with the ritual. I divorced him after 15 years so maybe it is a bad sign....
2006-06-13 06:46:11 · answer #8 · answered by angela s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is and absolutely bad sign no nookie on your wedding night girl something is definitely wrong with that picture watch him he might be confessing to something in a couple of months
2006-06-13 06:45:56 · answer #9 · answered by Diamond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds wise. After your wedding, you will both be exhausted. It's a good night to cuddle a little and then zonk out for your first good night's sleep in a week. Then, the next morning, when you are well rested and refreshed, you make up for it.
2006-06-13 06:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋